emily15 Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 I am a senior in high school and i will be graduating in 2 weeks... i have been best friends with this guy since freshman year. We had every single class together. we spent every day on the phone, skyping or texting after school and hungout almost every weekend freshman and sophomore year. Last spring, he was drunk and accidentally told me he was in love with me. I somehow had no idea and was so shocked. i felt so bad because i spent so much time talking to him about my boy problems. i love him and all but i just could not see him as anything more than a friend. we tried not talking for a while cause things didnt feel the same between us but that didnt work. we didnt see eachother much over the summer and when school started this year it seemed as though things were getting better but he still spoke to my friend about how hard it was for him to see me without being anything. he has a very bad temper, and when i would begin talking to guys and he would hear about it he would get so mad and be such a jerk to me. it got to be way too much to handle and we almost stopped being friends but he apologized and things began to get better. just this past weekend, he thought he thought i kissed someone in front of him at a concert when really i didnt. but he got mad and was such a jerk and i am giving up. He texted me and told me that he cant do it anymore and doesnt think we should talk & we should end the friendship.. we have 5 classes together out of 8 so i really dont know how this is going to work. i really dont want it to be this way, but i almost feel like it has to be. it sucks because school ends in 2 weeks and i think its over for good:( i need opinions
J2911 Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Hello Miss Emily , I know you are feeling sick about this situation , however , from what I'm reading , I think in my opinion you should run away from this guy. If he is acting this way about a friend , can you imagine how jealous and irrate he would get over a relationship !!?? I know it sucks , but right now this friendship should probably end until much later when he matures or gets help with his emotions. It's not safe for you to be friends with someone who clearly doesn't respect friendship boundaries . Be safe please 1
preraph Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 I agree with J2911. Please don't feel so bad that you try to be nice to him as you are trying not to hurt his feelings, and just let him go. In fact, if he tries to circle back around, you need to tell him no. These things happen all the time. Sometimes they can turn into a mess. So please realize how lucky you are that he wants to end it -- and now that he has, make sure he sticks with it. Because sometimes people can just keep hanging on and it can mess up your social life or they can get to where they're invading your privacy and, in this case, knowing how angry he gets, he could really go off on you. So you're very lucky he's voluntarily leaving. Be prepared to enforce it if he tries to come back in case it's a ploy or he has trouble making himself stay gone. Be firm. Just say no. Say, I know it's the right decision. We should have no contact. Anything else you do besides say no could cause problems. 1
J2911 Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 I agree with J2911. Please don't feel so bad that you try to be nice to him as you are trying not to hurt his feelings, and just let him go. In fact, if he tries to circle back around, you need to tell him no. These things happen all the time. Sometimes they can turn into a mess. So please realize how lucky you are that he wants to end it -- and now that he has, make sure he sticks with it. Because sometimes people can just keep hanging on and it can mess up your social life or they can get to where they're invading your privacy and, in this case, knowing how angry he gets, he could really go off on you. So you're very lucky he's voluntarily leaving. Be prepared to enforce it if he tries to come back in case it's a ploy or he has trouble making himself stay gone. Be firm. Just say no. Say, I know it's the right decision. We should have no contact. Anything else you do besides say no could cause problems. Very well written, and I completely agree with you.
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