iamatmywittsend Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Hello All! New here but in need of advice. I have been with my fiance for 3 yrs now and our sex life is all but non existent. When our relationship was new it was sincerely and completely passionate but that seemed to come to a screeching halt when I moved in with him. I am in my 40's and as we all know, women peak! and thats where I'm at! He views my "needs" as being selfish and I totally disagree but to even get him to talk to me about it...not happening. I am not unattractive so I don't see that as the issue, although his lack of attention weighs heavy on my self worth anymore... I have tried in vain to meet him at the door in lingere and have been completely embarrassed by his lack of interest! As my user name says... I AM AT MY WITTS END!!! I need advice, can this relationship be saved?! and counseling is out of the question, he would never consider letting a stranger into his head... This issue is wearing me down Please help.
pteromom Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 He views my "needs" as being selfish counseling is out of the question, he would never consider letting a stranger into his head... These two points do not bode well for creating a life with this man. He can't help it if he has little interest in sex, but the fact that he blames YOU for wanting it vs. working with you to create compromise means this is what he will do for EVERY issue you face. And - he won't go to counseling if you can't solve the issue between the two of you. So if you marry him, you are signing up for no sex, no fulfillment of your needs, and acceptance that no issue is going to be resolved. I know what I'd do... 1
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