Ztw Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Men please give me advice? We dated for 8 years. Were both in our early 30s. We did not speak for almost a year since he broke it off. We've been speaking only for a few months. He came over to give me a gift he got me in Spain. We watched tv for a bit then he held my hand, and we started kissing a lot to the point where the next step is clearly sex...and then he stops and says " we don't have meaningless sex" "then says "you look really really good" he then asked me to walk him to the door and continued kissing me and then left...What in the hell does this mean?! He texts me randomly every few days... Is he confused?
Mr.Pine Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Is he confused? Yup. He's gay. Or, you had a stinky twinky. Either way, move on.
STM206 Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 The fact that he didn't take advantage of the sexual opportunity can add in some confusion. If you have any feelings left for this guy, maybe just try and be straight up with him.
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 (edited) I'm not a man (obviously) but I would like to weigh in and give my two cents. I'm not sure why you broke up but regardless it's clear he still cares for you (and notice that I said "cares" not "loves" you). You both have a long history together and it's hard to erase all of that completely. Reuniting again after all that time may have stirred up some familiar feelings for both of you which is why things got a bit heated. The fact that he stopped midway, in my humble opinion, showed a lot of character and strength. Sure, he could have f*cked you like old times but then what? Are you back together again? Is this a one time thing? Are now FWB or moving towards a relationship again? A million questions would have been buzzing around in YOUR head had he not stopped. I think that him stopping and the things he said to you shows again that he still cares for you but that he's more interested in NOT leading you on than getting his rocks off with you. Given the plethora of posts on here about men with questionable characters and shady agendas I find it refreshing that he actually used good judgement with you. At least that's how I see it. What are you hoping for from him? Do you want to get back together again? If so, I'd let things unfold slowly. And BEFORE you jump back into the sack together again, please, please, PLEASE have some kind of conversation about where you both stand regarding your "relationship". This will save you a lot of confusion, questioning and inevitable heartbreak. Good luck! Edited May 19, 2014 by Michelle ma Belle
Author Ztw Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 What are you hoping for from him? Do you want to get back together again? If so, I'd let things unfold slowly. And BEFORE you jump back into the sack together again, please, please, PLEASE have some kind of conversation about where you both stand regarding your "relationship". This will save you a lot of confusion, questioning and inevitable heartbreak. He knows I still love him. I do want to get back together. Last time we spoke he said he wanted to be close friends. That was before he went to Spain. He said he never wanted to hurt me ever again. But was very busy with vet school. I'm not really sure how to feel about any if this anymore. It hurts to think about it.
Chi townD Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 It was heading towards sex. Hell, even you said it was. So, he knew this. It's possible that he wanted you to know that, that wasn't the purpose of his visit. That he wasn't after sex and give you the wrong impression. Or, afterward, having you think that he used you for sex. Is he confused? Yeah. I have a feeling that he wants to work things out but doesn't know how to go about doing it.
Recommended Posts