barbossa Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 When we are friends with someone? when we are dating? there is a saying that says you know someone when you travel with them live with them? How did people change after the break up? could you have guessed anything you or they did before they did/said it?
soccerrprp Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 When we are friends with someone? when we are dating? there is a saying that says you know someone when you travel with them live with them? How did people change after the break up? could you have guessed anything you or they did before they did/said it? I believe that everything a person does, says is a sign of who they are. It's tough to determine just how much of what you see or hear is them. You have to be objective and observant. I find that how people treat other people, outside of yourself, you learn a lot. I find that a person's relationship with friends, family, how many they have tells you a lot about him/her. Again, not always easy. Some people are good at hiding until it's too late. 1
pteromom Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 You don't *ever* fully know someone's character. Hell, sometimes people do things that surprise themselves! But you get a pretty good idea by observation. - Does the person have good relationships with family and friends? - Does the person do what they say they will do? - Does the person show that doing the right thing matters to him/her through actions? - Does the person's lifestyle align with what he/she says his/her beliefs and values are? Getting to truly know someone is a slow process, which is why it is smart to go slowly and keep your head about you, rather than letting passion and infatuation carry you away. 3
mammasita Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 When we are friends with someone? when we are dating? there is a saying that says you know someone when you travel with them live with them? How did people change after the break up? could you have guessed anything you or they did before they did/said it? When you go through difficult times together or see them go through a difficult time. Nothing proves a persons character like standing by a loved one who is ill/injured and can't care for themselves. 1
Tressugar Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Psychologists believe three to six months a person's true character will begin to reveal itself. They say claim that a person cannot keep up a facade no more than 6 months top.
StanMusial Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 What they do/say when no one's watching, or when there is nothing to be gained. 3
newmoon Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Psychologists believe three to six months a person's true character will begin to reveal itself. They say claim that a person cannot keep up a facade no more than 6 months top. disagree. what about con men who can keep things going with people for many years and then swindle them in the end. it depends on the person. as someone else posted, you will never truly know another person, you just can't. the mind is 100% private and people only tell you what they want to share. best thing is through constant observation. I think divorces that occur 20+ years into a marriage are proof that you don't know someone - ever - because people constantly change and evolve and make decisions you can never have predicted. best you can do is observe and note things in a variety of circumstances over a length of time that is comfortable to you. some people are more astute and see behaviors in others early on, and others catch on later. be your own gauge. 2
Imported Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 There is a side everyone sees, a side a few trusted people see and another side that is rarely to never seen. 3 months, 6 months, a lifetime? I don't think people share everything, we all have our inner demons to contend with. But I think that is beyond knowing someones character. 3 to 6 months, I may learn something like the prim and proper girl I am with is actually a slob that leaves her used undies where ever. How she will behave when times get rough and our relation is coming to an end will remain a mystery till it actually happens. I believe that everything a person does, says is a sign of who they are. No. These can be things people choose to show you. Sure, maybe you're right with some people, but trust me some of the seemingly nice and friendliest of people are the ones you should trust the least. 1
dichotomy Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 when you find out (or know) what they say about you and do for you - when your not around to watch. 2
Quiet Storm Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 I think a good indicator is to see how they react to stress, conflict and opportunity. How do they behave when no one is looking? Are they sneaky? Are they overdramatic? Do they try to control you or isolate you from others? Do they repeatedly accuse you of lying when they have no basis for it? Do they respect others? 2
pteromom Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Psychologists believe three to six months a person's true character will begin to reveal itself. They say claim that a person cannot keep up a facade no more than 6 months top. Oh boy, do I disagree with this!!! It can take as long as 1 1/2 years to get through the "honeymoon" phase of a relationship. 1
M30USA Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 A person reveals their true character when things don't go their way. 1
RonaldS Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 You can truly know someone's character 6-12 months after the relationship ends. 2
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