ExposedBrick Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 I went out with a woman a few nights ago I met via OLD. I was on the fence about going out with her initially as her photos were questionable. I have to admit I didn't find her particularly attractive in person. However, the date was on and I had to go through with it. We had a lot in common and the conversation flowed as smoothly as the beers. Admittedly, I had a nice buzz by the end of the night. I ended up making out with her briefly before we parted ways and I said we should do it again sometime. I feel really bad as she was a really nice girl. I know I should probably just let her down easy but in not sure what to say. I feel like such a jackarse.
Assasda Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Well you 2 have a lot in common. I say you ride it out for a little bit. Give her a chance. If you didnt have much in common, I could understand
Lyn77 Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Has she contacted you since the date? Maybe she feels the same way. I would say if you are not attracted to her, why continue seeing her? You likely only made out with her since you were buzzed. Sounds like you are a nice guy, I would just be honest with her and don't make up an excuse
HappyLove Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 You seem picky as hell! So what's wrong with her that you now have to move on already? Do you have any true intentions of a relationship or do you just like dating thousands of people?
Dallers Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 Beer goggles are what I took from your post, are you sure that it was not the alcohol making you reconsider? Honestly end it now if you are nowhere near sure if you find her attractive you certainly won't a few months in and it is then that the other person gets hurt. Go for the one you like not the easy option. 1
Fondue Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 If you don't find her attractive now, you won't find her attractive in the future. Just don't make an attempt at setting up a second date. If she's a shy one, she isn't going to try to arrange one with you either. It'll fizzle out on it's own.
Author ExposedBrick Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 Do I actually need to formally let her down? She sent me a friendly text the following day after the date, which i politely replied to the small talk. I didn't request a second date or elude to a second date. I was still a bit unsire of myself at that moment. I know now it was a combination of dating frustration and alcohol that led to the make out session( I had just blown my chances with another woman I had a strong interest in by being too eager). I'm not picky on giving women a chance from OLD, you just don't know what they'll be like in person until you meet them. Is my silence rude or sufficient in not pursuing this?
Assasda Posted May 21, 2014 Posted May 21, 2014 I still stand by my post. But, to end it. Just... Go no contact, she'll get hint
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