yorkie Posted May 18, 2014 Posted May 18, 2014 hi been nearly 9 months since me and ex split. my ex dropped the kids off with her new fella today. i didnt see him but saw his car. she promised me that she wouldnt bring him down my street but she did. i havent met him yet and i just wondered how people cope and whats best to do if that makes sense? im annoyed she broke that agreement we made!
learning_slowly Posted May 18, 2014 Posted May 18, 2014 People quickly forget when their life is going well. She probably does not even realise. Just be polite if you meet him, no snide remarks like does she still make that funny sound when she orgasms It maybe hard, but just try to be dignified. You'll feel better after and you will probably see him a lot more over the years to come. You have to see them for the kids, but apart from that, ignore what they do. They're not important to your life anymore. Focus on what you want out of life, and try and get it. 4
harrybrown Posted May 18, 2014 Posted May 18, 2014 Does she bring every new bf around your kids, or does she wait until she is serious? Not good for the kids to be exposed to every tom, dick and harry. I would try to go NC with both of them. (her new fella and your ex, as much as possible) 1
Author yorkie Posted May 18, 2014 Author Posted May 18, 2014 lol learning slowly took me a couple of attempts reading that but it made me chuckle lol! and thanks for that. Harry Brown no this was the first time she has brought him round the house in his top of the range Audi. tbh i am feeling better now i have chatted to a few people and i feel that my ex gf is playing mind games! i think she is after a reaction, some thing i didn't do. saying that i am insecure at the moment about my kids as well and i think she knows this and wanted me to react badly. the thing that is doing my head in is that yes nearly 13 years we were together and she left she says she didnt cheat but moved in with the new guy after 4 months separated. but what i struggle with is i am seeing a lovely lass who i have always fancied and i have been seeing her a while and she is great wow what a personality! she is amazing! why cant i just get over the ex! or should i say not be bothered about the ex and her new fella? its easy saying it but actually moving on is frustrating cos i wanna move on yesterday! i think just the shock of seeing his car i couldnt get a look at him as he didnt get out of the car but do you reckon its time for me to meet him or not i dont know! end of the day. i just got panicky if that makes sense!
learning_slowly Posted May 19, 2014 Posted May 19, 2014 We as humans take rejection badly, so it maybe you are still thinking about your ex, because you can't understand why somebody would reject you. People can be illogical at the best of times. I know my ex left me for a safer bet and I don't blame her for doing what she thought was best. But she knows her life will be more boring with him. That seems stupid to me, but it's what she wanted. I imagine she may have been on the verge of cheating at the very least, but it doesn't matter, she's no longer in your life that way. I still think about my ex and sometimes go into imagination land and think I could turn it around. But then I wake up and think if I put half the effort in to a new relationship, it will be much better than trying to reignite the old dead one. Maybe your new gf doesn't do something that your ex used to? If so talk to her, she's not telepathic.
Author yorkie Posted May 19, 2014 Author Posted May 19, 2014 Tbh i have struggled and i know my new gf and i were quickly into a relationship. And maybe that is it but my new gf is herself in her own right. If that makes sense it is weird getting to know someone else and for her not being my ex. But she is better than my ex. And im happy with my new gf. I just cant get over this final hurdle regarding the ex. I think its a jealousy thing maybe that she appears happy and over me which hurts as it took me a hell of a long time to get over her. I just wanna be happy with what i have got and i am but why do i think of the ex argh does my head in.
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