Lorelai Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 And if you would't, why? Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 Yeah I'd like to know the answer too…WTF? Link to post Share on other sites
Assasda Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 Sure, why not invite her? Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 Are there limited tickets? Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 Absolutely yes. Why the hell not. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 18, 2014 Share Posted May 18, 2014 Unless there are limited spaces (which is not unusual for graduations) it is very odd that a girlfriend wouldn't be invited. Only thing I could guess is that there's someone else who will be in attendance and he doesn't want the girlfriend to see or know about. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lorelai Posted May 19, 2014 Author Share Posted May 19, 2014 No guest limits. I haven't directly asked him why he didn't invite me, I expressed that I wished I could have been there, that I was proud of him for all of his achievements and that I would have loved to have been there to share it with him. I guess I need to learn to be a little more direct when something hurts me, but I hate conflict. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 How long have you been together? I think you should ask him directly, if you've been in an exclusive R for more than a few months. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 Only reasons I could come up with was that there was someone else there he didn't want you to meet or that he didn't want you in the pictures. Link to post Share on other sites
happywithlife Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 How long have you been dating? If it has only been a few weeks and the relationship is too young to start meeting family, I can understand why he didn't invite you. If you are the point where you are exclusive, have been dating a while, and are meeting family members then, yes I could invite my boyfriend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
waiting4u Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 Yeah, this is usually a big family event. If you aren't serious, it might not be appropriate. Serious as in engaged or living together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lorelai Posted May 19, 2014 Author Share Posted May 19, 2014 Yeah, this is usually a big family event. If you aren't serious, it might not be appropriate. Serious as in engaged or living together. He and I have been dating exclusively for over a year and a half, we had Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners with family, and I've been to social events with his parents. But we aren't engaged and don't live together. Link to post Share on other sites
man_in_the_box Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 Family event? Not really. Depends on the culture I guess. Maybe my parents/siblings but that's about it. Aside from that it's for friends I've met during my study. And yes I'll invite my girlfriend (kind of a no-brainer to be honest). Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 Dating exclusively for 1.5 years -- yes -- I'd want him to be there. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 He and I have been dating exclusively for over a year and a half, we had Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners with family, and I've been to social events with his parents. But we aren't engaged and don't live together. A year and a half and having met his family, I think it's very reasonable for you to express your concern. You definitely don't have to be engaged or living together to be invited to a graduation... Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 Hell yeah. Link to post Share on other sites
halfcrazed_i Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 For what it's worth, I didn't invite my ex to my college graduation because my parents think of it as a "family event." And while they respected my ex at that time, they just don't want hi to feel awkward -- and my mum is quite forward thinking in a sense that she doesn't want any photos of any bf or gf in graduation photos in case we didn't me up with them (and having to explain it to anyone who's looking at the photos later on). It's kind of hard to explain without making my parents sound cold and callous. But I actually get it. I understand why they have asked me and my siblings for this. Also, as they have paid for our tuition, it's the least I can do to respect their wishes. My graduation is their victory as parents. In any case, they have invited our bf or gf to our graduation dinners. They've only asked the commencement exercises to be family only. And also, I've made this absolutely clear to my ex back then so he doesn't get the wrong idea. Thankfully he was very understanding and he respected my parents' wishes. And he joined us for my graduation dinner. So yeah, it's not unheard of to not invite a gf or bf to a college graduation. But at the very least, I hope he would at least explain to you his reasons. Link to post Share on other sites
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