oceanblue93 Posted May 18, 2014 Posted May 18, 2014 I separated from my ex 2.5 months ago after finding out he was having an emotional affair with someone. The whole time I knew but he denied it and manipulated me into thinking that I was jealous and controlling and needed to accept his relationships with the opposite sex. I started to believe this but the truth did come out he was having this emotional affair and I kicked him out of my house, gave him no contact and pretty much said don't ever talk to me again and leave the country! (To put it lightly). Our relationship lasted 9 months and 3 months into it I discovered he had kissed another woman on a weekend away and then they had started an emotional affair afterwards. I tried to break up with him over that but I just couldn't at the time I was scared to lose him. Anyway he has come back to me out of the blue and has explained that he had changed, realised what he has lost and that he wants to try his hardest to get me back. I told him I would have nothing to do with him if he had contact with the other woman and he deleted her from Facebook, told her they couldn't speak because he wanted to get me back and he blocked her number. He is also aware that my family/friends hate him but he says he is willing to face them. There was also another woman who he had spoken to when we were separated and he also sent her a message just explaining he was trying to get back with me. (He also sent the first woman he cheated on me with a message at the same time as the most recent emotional affair a message explaining he was sad he lost her) So all in all I'm not really sure what to think of this all. He is either genuine or a very messed up person He said he wasn't ready the first time for a serious relationship, but he seems to have realised that I am this one woman he wants in his life - no one else. He had tried to explain that if he was going to cheat or start emotional affairs with people he wouldn't bother trying with me again because he knows how much pain he caused. Anyway I'm not sure what to think of all this, hoping to gain some insight and advice on how to tackle this situation Many thanks!
Tressugar Posted May 18, 2014 Posted May 18, 2014 I don't believe people really change all that much. Remember he's your ex for a reason.
FredJones80 Posted May 18, 2014 Posted May 18, 2014 If he's doing this after 9 months then it isn't a good sign of his character. Get out while you can and its still early enough to not hurt that much.
Survivor12 Posted May 18, 2014 Posted May 18, 2014 Did I read this right--He sent the first women a text saying he was sorry he'd lost her??? If so, I'd tell the jerk to get lost! She dumped him THEN he decides that he wants you back?!? I hope I'm reading that all wrong...
No Limit Posted May 18, 2014 Posted May 18, 2014 He also sent the first woman he cheated on me with a message at the same time as the most recent emotional affair a message explaining he was sad he lost her Big red flag. He's a serial cheater who needs a female at his side and now tries everything he can. Don't fall for it. Set the lawn on fire next time he attempts to come over.
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