Discover Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 Hey guys, Long time no see! I decided to post since it has been around 5-6 months after my break up and I felt like sharing! The reason for this is actually because today I met a friend of mine who told me that he had seen my ex while she was with the other guy and told her to clear it out with me and this was 5 months ago. We had already broken up but I really feel good because of the thing he did for me. I feel strange, I don't feel bad any more, sure I am n0t 100% over her but I feel free and stronger than ever, although really disappointed by her, I guess. I mean after two years, I didn't expect this to happen, but whatever.. She tried to come back, texted me how she will become better for me, etc. So I guess, I am improving in a way, in which I don't really search for her, a bit hard since she tries to spend time with me but oh well...she wanted me out of her life, didn't she?.. To everyone in a break up, feel free to write to me in personal messages or here so we can help each other like people here helped me! Don't lose faith and keep looking forward. Like one of the biggest users here Barky says: " This too shall pass" . 5 months ago, I was so close to letting everything in my life pass by because of the break up. Now I understand, how much of life I haven't seen and believe me, I still believe that one day, when I give the world to a girl, she will do the same for me! Heads up guys, I know it is hard, but it gets better when you wise up! 2
inlin Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 That's good to hear. I've been NC for over a month and didn't see her for maybe two months. My mood and emotions are not stable still. Although they feel like they are. The worst part are the mornings, sometimes waking up with this emptiness feeling inside of me. I do miss her and have that hope of her saying that she made a huge mistake, probably why I didn't block her on facebook. I think I should but I'd rather play it chill. This sounds terrible but what helps me sometimes is when I think about if we actually got married when were older and how disappointed I would be. Because she is going to be overweight with her poor diet, lack of discipline to workout or even eat right, she has a bad knee which would prevent her from running, she has depression and will be on anti-depressants for life which would probably affect our future kids, she has low red blood cell count so she gets tired (anemic) fast and also has jaundice. I didn't care before becasue I loved her and would have stuck around to help her. 2
Author Discover Posted May 17, 2014 Author Posted May 17, 2014 Yea, I get you. It is really strange to be thinking of the negative facts, when during your entire relationship you were ignoring them..but if it helps you it is okay, as long as you don't wish it to her, I guess. Don't worry, it will get better, 5months and I still have some pretty awful days, mainly at night for me, though. And, I actually knew she would come back, not being confidend, just felt like it and when she did it sucked. It confuses you and hurts you as you turn out to be her doormat... Move on, and look forward. What I learned from this relationship is that in life, you never know... 1
jbelle6 Posted May 18, 2014 Posted May 18, 2014 Nice to see a positive post, glad you are doing well Discover! And I do the same inlin and I don't feel bad one bit! I look at unattractive pics on top of all that, shallow? maybe, but whatever works. lol. 2
me0wth Posted May 18, 2014 Posted May 18, 2014 9 months here: It gets better as you meet new women and realize that you have disciplined yourself emotionally. Dates become easier. You wont feel like a confident meathead but you will have this kind of "been there done that" mentality and there's no nervousness or lack of awareness
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