The Sword Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 My ex left me for another guy after many years together.. The guy has since began to abuse her mentally and physically. He choked her and left wounds.. He calls her a retard and the c word, amongst other bad things... She confessed to me he was raped when he was 7, and that this is why he acts out. She is rationalizing his behavior. I am offering her a chance to get out -- come live with me. And then I am going to get revenge against him. I am going to use his rape as a tool against him. I KNOW how wrong this is, and I DON'T mean it. But I am going to say he deserved the rape, he is weak and worthless, and I will use it as a weapon against him. I want him to take his own life, as he is very dangerous. I will be able to protect her, as my father is a police officer and I live with him. She will be safe here, he won't try to come after us. I know what everyone is going to say. But I have tried everything else. She is rationalizing the abuse. She thinks she deserved the abuse. The ONLY way to get her out is to push HIM to the point of no return, to the point SHE is scared of him and will not dare ever come near him again. I call this the nuclear option. I am ashamed to use a rape against someone, but I have to make him go absolutely insane. At ANY cost. All other options have been exhausted.
somedude81 Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 Just tell your father about the abuse your ex is suffering. Don't play any games with her new BF.
Author The Sword Posted May 17, 2014 Author Posted May 17, 2014 Just tell your father about the abuse your ex is suffering. Don't play any games with her new BF. She has to report it herself, he can't do a damn thing unfortunately. Otherwise it's just hearsay. 2
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 Step away from this entire situation. It is not your duty nor your obligation to protect her... 3
Author The Sword Posted May 17, 2014 Author Posted May 17, 2014 Step away from this entire situation. It is not your duty nor your obligation to protect her... I am motivated by crushing his soul. I want to twist the metaphorical knife within him. He is an abusive waste of life, I want to see him suffer. That is my obligation -- revenge.
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 I am motivated by crushing his soul. I want to twist the metaphorical knife within him. He is an abusive waste of life, I want to see him suffer. That is my obligation -- revenge. You have issues. This is not healthy!! You are acting like judge, jury and executioner. Not your place!!! 2
Author The Sword Posted May 17, 2014 Author Posted May 17, 2014 (edited) You are acting like judge, jury and executioner. Judge Dredd Edited May 17, 2014 by The Sword
Hoosfoos Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 I sympathize with you, I really do. The one you were with for years leaves you for a damaged goods POS. But..... What happened to him when he was 7 was not his fault. It doesnt justify him being an abusive prick, but it is not his fault. The relationship will likely implode on its own and you should replace your anger for him with pity. You are better than this. That being said, if he harms her again, get the cops involved. 2
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 ^^Agreed. Get the cops involved. You are not the one to hand down sentence to this person. What if someone judged you in such a harsh light??? 2
organizedchaos Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 I am motivated by crushing his soul. I want to twist the metaphorical knife within him. He is an abusive waste of life, I want to see him suffer. That is my obligation -- revenge. So in essence, you are no better than him now. 4
KaliLove Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 This behavior is disgusting. Yours I mean. He IS suffering. I'm not saying that what he's doing is ok, it's not, and he should go to jail for it. But to use his childhood abuse against him is sick. As OC said, you are no better than he is. You're both abusive pricks.
todreaminblue Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 (edited) i will tell you what will happen the girl you care about ......will hate you.......because you are making him a victim all over again....... i was abused as a child if anyone ever were to do this to me i wouldnt hurt anyone ........ i would probably want to die in fact i could guarantee when i am pushed to the limit remembering my past.......i dont take it out on others........is that what you want on your head......his possible death i have met quite a few abused men ........all of them cry......all of them have issues...most of them have tried to take their own life.....a few succeeded....all of them have needed understanding not more abuse...the ones that arent here anymore needed professional help....he needs help...what you suggest is not help its hindrance...... you dont have any right whatsoever to do this..... get revenge ......and they say hurt people hurt people......who hurt you? to make you write and want to respond in such a violent, thoughtless, harmful , illogical and irresponsible way dont do it........please call your dad if he is violent with her...that is his job .........you dont protect people with violence you protect them with your love far more powerful than hate..........never hate the enemy only love who stands behind you..die for them ...not for revenge..........its the soldiers way of protecting countries.....so all in all,you aren't protecting her you will cause her emotional damage by pure unadulterated thoughts and acts of destruction.....be at peace..you dont know how to battle the right way...think deeper my friend..justice is not delivered from your hands with revenge in mind...that is not justice..... or even in a court of law justice often isnt served..... not properly only god knows how to do that and he will...deb Edited May 17, 2014 by todreaminblue
Bumaga vsyo sterpit Posted May 21, 2014 Posted May 21, 2014 Man, you really cracked me up. I had a good laugh. I mean you're like a kitten trying to bark. Your nick's "The Sword"? C'mawwn. Then not only do you not lay ANY of the blame on your ex (who dumped you like a chump and went to the new guy) but astonishingly, you hate on the new guy with a passion. You're completely blind to the fact that your ex is playing you like a guitar for comfort until she's strong enough to go back to him. You also question nothing she's said. You think you're her knight in shining armor? You're her turkey. As if all that's not bad enough, the funniest part is how seriously you're taking this. You're planning to "get revenge" by dissing him, and you're planning what you're gonna say and running it by us. LOL. This guy supposedly beat your ex up, choked her and left wounds, and you're scared enough to fall back on your cop dad to ward him off, BUT I bet when you scold him he's going to shake in his boots, cry like a baby and hang himself. Are you crazy? He's gonna put you in the hospital! Try to step outside yourself a moment and consider how ridiculous you sound and how ridiculous the whole situation is. You'll come to your senses.
bubbaganoosh Posted May 21, 2014 Posted May 21, 2014 You going to do this with the next guy too? Look friend, too many stories on this forum with a guy riding in on a white horse to save the damsel in distress has failed and the only thing he gets is kicked in the teeth. Your ex girlfriend as the ability to know when to bail out and she left you for a reason. In other words she made her bed and now she has to lay in it. I see nothing good coming out of this. I know it sounds hard hearted but I can't see nothing but trouble. Just my opinion.
No Limit Posted May 21, 2014 Posted May 21, 2014 Street justice will get you into jail. She's a big girl who can leave on her own, walking away isn't very hard especially if she has 2 or more legs. He's most likely a manipulating bastard, but there's nothing you can do about it. Usually they go back to them as soon as they reach out, look up 'stockholm syndrome'. She'd need therapy for years and it would have to be motivated by her own will, but as sad as it may sound, she's not that desperate yet.
SpiritualAlchemy Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 Your plan for world domination sounds pretty dumb, Dr. Evil. Give her the contact number for the local womens' shelter and be done with it. If she wanted to be with you, she would be, but she chooses to be with him. All you can do is be a friend, but even that gets tiresome if you're rung for the hundreth time to go patch her up, or give her another pep talk. She's got to come to a realization about her own life and relationship, on her own, that's part and parcel of being an adult. There's legislation about bullying and stalking and harrassing people. This is what you're planning, in essence. You've just admitted to a forum some dastardly plan of revenge. Dont be a fool, detach before you land yourself in prison.
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