Stylin22 Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 Okay, here's the continuation from another thread I had written on. I don't want to hijack the other guys thread so here's my little dilemma... Well, as my boys won their third in four years the other night, I happened to text message my "one that got away" and started to talk some trash. She actually sent me some messages back as well. I was totally hammered and having fun. She ended up telling me to call her after the game. I replied, "well, I have actually missed you so I'll definitely call you." Then she replied, "I miss you too". Well, I called her and got voice mail but she texted, and said "I'll call you in a bit". SHe calls and it's like drunken talk but good. I knew I was drunk and said I'll call you tomorrow night (Monday), and cause there is a 3 hour time difference she gave me the best times to call her. Well, it's Wednesday during the morning, and I haven't called... I was 26 when I dated her for 4 months. Things started off really well and we were both really into it. She played Div. I lacrosse and I went to most of her home games. Well, I had, a few months before, gotten out of an engagement with another girl who I really loved. For me, I think I knew I wasn't ready for this relationship and really tried to do it cause of the connection we had. But, I had gone through all these mental games with the fiancee when she broke it off and at that point I had said, no more games. Well, this girl started to do this thing where said, I'll call you and then would never call. And, when I held to my boundry of no games, that didn't allow very much communication. She is also a bit snotty and can be rude at times...But, ever since we broke up, I've always said, if I had just one more chance at a different time, I would really want to see what happens...I still have feelings for her which is amazing considering it was a few months and that I thought it might be a rebound as well. I think I have genuine feelings for her and I want to see about a 2nd chance...But the dynamics set up are this, she moved to Oregon and will be there for 3 years at least. I have applied to graduate school and if I am accepted, 3 years for me here. Is it good to stay in touch with her over this period and see how things go? I'm really having trouble seeing the right thing to do cause of my emotional attachment. I know I have to be cautious and not have any expectations. But is it possible that this could come back?
Hund1976 Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 Its possible but I wouldn't spend the next three years thinking about it. Give yourself some time to get everything out of your head. Then maybe send her a Christmas card. If three years from now you're both living in the same place and are single maybe something will happen. But you need to live your life in the meantime.
clynn Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 Have you phoned her yet?? I say don't get too wigged out about it yet! Phone her, find out her status. Maybe she is single? Or maybe she isn't? Tell here where you were at when you and she met and what was going on for you. Just see...... You have some basic info to find out before you know what decision to make about your life and your relationship with her! What happened? Did you call her??!?!?!?!??!?!?
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