photolic Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Well my ex girlfriend just broke up with me about one month and half ago, the reasons at the time was something like she didn't feel the same for me, she kinda lost the interest in my because i was unemployed for 1 year, and the last month we didn't had sex, she also told me that need to be alone, in the that day she cried and kissed me like a baby while she broke up. We both dated 4 years, and we had a very strong chemistry between us, all of our mutual friends was surprised when she broke up with me, because we are like the wonder couple, friendly and always joking and playing with wish other. No 3th people involved in the breakup and was a friendly breakup, we never cheated and something like that. I dont have nothing to point at her nor she have about me. Well the thing is, after 80 days of LC, almost NC just I broke the NC rule because somethings that she forgot in my house, and was her do text me. Well yesterday out of blue she text me: Send me a picture with their lunch attached to the text message saying "The restaurant you talked me about, and we didn't tried both, my parents just took me today and was you told me is lovely, i just loved the place " Well i replyed just saying "yeah i told you its a cool place, hope you enjoyed" 5 hour latter she called me!! i was like , for someone that doesn't say you nothing about 80 days a call out of the blue was like the twilight zone!!! "hey how are you doing, sorry for calling you for this but... can you give me your card number (store card), i would like to buy some tickets to the university party and with your card number is cheaper..." I was like , she didn't call me for so many days and now call me for a 3 dollars discount, is she crazy or what?? like pretending that everything is ok, she also told me if i wanna come with her and other 3 grils friends of her i could go with her, i just laugh at that proposal and said yes yes sure. I did give her my card number. After like 15 of that twilight call, she text me again saying, "sorry for calling you for asking for a discount on the tickets, but you know my finances are not so good at the moment, i think you would enjoy the concert 2, i used to listen to that guys when i was a kid in my mother car" Wish i replied, not sure maybe i will go, i don't know wish she replied "tell me if you come and thank you so much for giving me the number " After 15 minutes she also liked my last post on facebook, i was in shock, because she ignored my facebook since the day we broke up. And all at the same time text message me, CALL me, facebook activity. What is happening? i really don´t understand if she wants to test the waters?, in my point of view if she wanted to rethink the relationship she would text me something like "hey i need to talk with you, do you have time?", or "i really regret the decision i made..." or "i missed you lately". But this kind of things i cant understand, what do you think? im starting to moving on (i still love her, true love, i never liked so much any other girl, and for me she is the one... but my heart was ripped off 80 days ago, so i don't know whats happening with her right now. Any advice? (sorry for my English not my native language)
lil hoodlum Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 What is it that you want from this situation photolic? To just be friends and act like nothing happened or ?
Author photolic Posted May 16, 2014 Author Posted May 16, 2014 What is it that you want from this situation photolic? To just be friends and act like nothing happened or ? Nope i really love her, and i cant erase her from my mind, i wish i could at this point, but im moving forward slowly. When she broke up with me, i made myself clear about one thing, i cant be your friend or best friends, because we had such a great relationship i cant face you like a friend. She agreed with that. Still now after 80 days or more im not prepared to see her was a friend, because i still love her... I would like a better sinal from her, to understand what she really wants, for now, with this sinals i think she is trying to move the watters a bit, you dont stop loving someone, and then after 80 you start missing him allready. Just my 2 cents. But is strange to out of the blue text, call, text, text, facebook all in a row. btw i didn't went to the concert.
Chi townD Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 She probably figured that enough time has past that you felt comfortable enough and healed enough to contact her. Therefore, she's hoping that you're ready for a "Friendship".
Author photolic Posted May 16, 2014 Author Posted May 16, 2014 She probably figured that enough time has past that you felt comfortable enough and healed enough to contact her. Therefore, she's hoping that you're ready for a "Friendship". Maybe, but a 4 year relationship is not a joke. So she miscalculated that, she knows i don't want to enter in the friend zone, that's game over for me. And she is not dumb. Not for tomorrow or next month´s, but i want to have the boyfriend door open in a future so (if SHE fight for it not me crawling back). Friend zone? no ty
lolablue17 Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Two options: 1. She wants you as a friend. 2. She wants you back as a boyfriend. call and tell her you are confused with her calls and texts. Remind her that you dont want to be "just friends" with her and unless she has something realy important to say, you prefer full NC. If she wants you back, she will have to reveal that fact. 2
Author photolic Posted May 17, 2014 Author Posted May 17, 2014 Two options: 1. She wants you as a friend. 2. She wants you back as a boyfriend. call and tell her you are confused with her calls and texts. Remind her that you don't want to be "just friends" with her and unless she has something really important to say, you prefer full NC. If she wants you back, she will have to reveal that fact. I agree with your point of view the thing is, I moved on with my life already, (i did that to heal and improve myself instead of crying to the walls all the time). I'm waiting to start a formation at culinary school (like master chef kitchen!), at the moment i give photography classes was a volunteer to kids with cancer in a hospital, i'm surfing was i used to surf in old times, and i'm starting the gym for the firs-time in my life. So the thing is, i don't really want to go after her, she broke up with me, she is the one that have to make the first move... its hard for me to go this way but i think is the right one, i'm vulnerable to her, i still love her, but i have to love me also, if she want to come back, she should move in my direction not the opposite.
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