Marks Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 So this is a question geared more towards the ladies (since I'm a guy). I've heard quite a few women refer to some guys as really good kissers, and it being one of the reasons why they like them. But I've always been curious...what exactly makes a guy a good kisser? Is it a particular technique they use? The way they work their lips? Is it some other thing like how they hold you when they kiss you? Or a timing thing?
soccerrprp Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Passionate. No drooling, slobbering:). Creative tongue-action. No bad breath. What you do with your hands and other parts of your body (not always only about the mouth/lips/tongue).... Of course, not everyone likes it too passionate or tongue. 2
hasaquestion Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 So this is a question geared more towards the ladies (since I'm a guy). I've heard quite a few women refer to some guys as really good kissers, and it being one of the reasons why they like them. But I've always been curious...what exactly makes a guy a good kisser? Is it a particular technique they use? The way they work their lips? Is it some other thing like how they hold you when they kiss you? Or a timing thing? I'm not a lady.... but imo you're best served being very attentive and figuring out the other persons tendencies/rhythm, then mirroring them as you go along. Good kisser = same style as the other person. I don't think what you're doing matters as much as if you're on the same page. If she's trying to take a chunk out of your face, go for it. If she likes to pull away a lot few seconds and re-angle, follow suit. And generally there's a rhythm to kissing. Her then you then her then you. Make an effort to be in rhythm. Other than that I guess breath is huge, but you don't need me to tell you that.
Potz4prez Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 The real question is: Are good kissers made or born? 3
SadNLonley Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 The real question is: Are good kissers made or born? I think they are born. I loved my ex with everything, but he could not kiss. When I say that, i mean there was no passion in it. He kinda acted like he didnt know what he was doing. At 40 years old I dont think that is going to change.
letmoc Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 For me as a woman it has always been my feelings and comfort level with the guy I am kissing. And I like to take the lead on the kiss and let them follow me a bit. The worst thing ever is to have a guy "introduce the tongue" too early into the kiss. 1
Mrin Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 The real question is: Are good kissers made or born? Born. Almost impossible to change kissers
Damaged217 Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 I like slow, deep kisses and just the right amount of tongue. Too much tongue is a total turn-off. And how the guy is holding me is also key. I like when they hold me close. Also, gently biting my lower lip is hot. I also think good kissers are just born that way. But that doesn't mean that you can't teach bad kissers how to be good ones. My current bf used to go way overboard with the tongue when we first started dating. I couldn't handle that so I just told him to go easy with it and his kisses are muuuuuch better now. 3
Potz4prez Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Ugh... slow, deep kisses... I think too much tongue is a byproduct of learning to kiss when you're young and drunk. I think they are born. I loved my ex with everything, but he could not kiss. When I say that, i mean there was no passion in it. He kinda acted like he didnt know what he was doing. At 40 years old I dont think that is going to change. Born. Almost impossible to change kissers So we all agree it's something about them that they're born with... So, this is interesting: For me as a woman it has always been my feelings and comfort level with the guy I am kissing. And I like to take the lead on the kiss and let them follow me a bit. The worst thing ever is to have a guy "introduce the tongue" too early into the kiss. Is it a far stretch to suggest that there could be a correlation between kissing ability and social skill? For example, a socially anxious individual will make a bad kisser - and that individual was essentially born with that slot in life - hence they were born a bad kisser. Or do you find that bad kissing is totally independent of how someone behaves socially? Like a star athlete or prom queen, whatever, can also be bad kissers? For example, I know for a fact that a guy I know, who the ladies think is handsome and charming... is absolutely horrible in bed (according to a girl I know). 1
Bruce Leigh Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 The kiss is only as good as the person receiving it. Been told i am a great kisser by some, so-so by others. The ones that said i was a good kisser i had a stronger connection/attraction with. As the Cher song says, " its in his kiss "
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 My first love (may he rest in peace!) never used tongues he just done little 'screen kisses' and I loved it. I find that far more sensual than using tongues and i still kiss like that now x 1
Grumpybutfun Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 My wife has puffy lips, kissing her is a treat always. Kissing is kind of like making love with the same partner, the more you do it, the better you are at it. The more you know how to gauge and modulate movements, the better your kiss will be. Also,not enough can be said of passion in kissing. I've kissed a few women who were so dry and un imaginative kissing that I didn't want to ever kiss them again. G
SadNLonley Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 I know for a fact that a guy I know, who the ladies think is handsome and charming... is absolutely horrible in bed (according to a girl I know). I love that. Most of the time, people like that have huge egos. Even if they dont know they are bad in bed, at least you do. 2
SadNLonley Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 When you find a good kisser or have this amazing physical connection its crazy how frenzied you can get. Oh how I miss those days. lol. 1
letmoc Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Is it a far stretch to suggest that there could be a correlation between kissing ability and social skill? For example, a socially anxious individual will make a bad kisser - and that individual was essentially born with that slot in life - hence they were born a bad kisser. Or do you find that bad kissing is totally independent of how someone behaves socially? Like a star athlete or prom queen, whatever, can also be bad kissers? For example, I know for a fact that a guy I know, who the ladies think is handsome and charming... is absolutely horrible in bed (according to a girl I know). I think that if you are too confident you are less likely to pick up on signals from the person you are kissing or having sex with. So this guy may be so into himself that he is missing out on the fact that he is not doing it for them. 1
Koopa Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 When I was younger I met a girl who when I started kissing her she stopped me and told me I was not a good kisser, I told her I had only kissed 1 other girl and she taught me how to kiss (she also taught me how to give great cunnilingus and other things) but ever since her I have never had any complaints and been told I'm a good kisser too. We can be taught and if you're with a guy thats a bad kisser then give him some tips. 1
organizedchaos Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 It's a dance and requires both parties to be in rhythm. Find the rhythm and you're all set. Whoever initiates, ease in to it at first, see how the other reacts, and go with it. 2
Omei Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 No slobber, have a mint prior or something anything esp if you were just eating just don't have bad breath. I suggest asking her what she likes a lot of people here are saying tounge and I find that totally disgusting so keep in mind you shouldn't assume, ask. Do normal kisses before getting fancy. That's a safe bet.
Potz4prez Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Just thought of something... Anyone ever give a pursed lip kiss to someone they're actually attracted to?
PogoStick Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 The first time kissing you have to be conservative since you don't know the style of the other person. You can't go wrong with soft, playful kisses. On the lips, be slow, gentle, and deliberate. You want to feel how your lips fit together, how they resist as you pull away. She's your drug, let her tickle your nerves. It's an entire production, really. Clear the hair back beside her face. It's a crescendo like in music. Run your fingers like feathers down her neck. Move her head to the side. She's happy to surrender. Kiss behind the earlobe, or right where the neck meets the shoulder. As she overwhelms your senses you become stronger. You firmly grasp the hair behind her neck. Your rational mind is clouded. You nibble at her lip. You pull her closer to feel every inch of her pressed against you. She turns you into an animal which makes her feel beautiful and irresistible. So yeah, it's not "just" about the kiss. 3
Author Marks Posted May 17, 2014 Author Posted May 17, 2014 So we all agree it's something about them that they're born with... I have a hard time believing it's something that you're born with. Maybe some people have a better instinct as to what to do, but I'm more inclined to think that it's something you can learn to get better at. The only problem is that it's not something you can just practice anytime you want...unlike say, an instrument, where you can go out, buy it, and play to your heart's content. Instead you have to find a willing lady 1
organizedchaos Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 The first time kissing you have to be conservative since you don't know the style of the other person. You can't go wrong with soft, playful kisses. On the lips, be slow, gentle, and deliberate. You want to feel how your lips fit together, how they resist as you pull away. She's your drug, let her tickle your nerves. It's an entire production, really. Clear the hair back beside her face. It's a crescendo like in music. Run your fingers like feathers down her neck. Move her head to the side. She's happy to surrender. Kiss behind the earlobe, or right where the neck meets the shoulder. As she overwhelms your senses you become stronger. You firmly grasp the hair behind her neck. Your rational mind is clouded. You nibble at her lip. You pull her closer to feel every inch of her pressed against you. She turns you into an animal which makes her feel beautiful and irresistible. So yeah, it's not "just" about the kiss. Damn, I think I need a cigarette after reading that. 6
PogoStick Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 Thank you kind sir/maam. And what if we were actually there for real?
Ruby Slippers Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 Damn, I think I need a cigarette after reading that. Me too. LS is my current source of imaginary thrills in a dry spell 1
GravityMan Posted May 17, 2014 Posted May 17, 2014 Sorry, but to a large extent I think the ability to be a good kisser is a talent you're born with. You either got it or you don't. Some people just have a natural knack for it which can't be taught. Similar to a person's sense of humor, his IQ, his charisma and charm if he has any, his dancing ability and so on. Some of it depends on genetics and the person's physical makeup...the size/shape/firmness of his or her lips; the length, texture and structure of the tongue; natural body odor. Coordination and rhythm matters, too. Likewise with the ability to read each other's subtle non-verbal cues, taking the lead and following each other's direction. And just like sexual compatibility there's also kissing compatibility...some people's kissing style just meshes well with some and not at all with others. It depends. As long as you follow some basic guidelines (avoid copious slobber) and pay attention to your partner, you shouldn't worry too much about this. There's a good chance that your kissing might be wonderful to one woman, a total dealbreaker to the next one, and just decent to the third. Everyone's different. I think someone can be "taught" to be "non-crappy" at kissing with time, practice and experience but that's about as far as it goes. If you are the type who gets uptight easily, you are likely going to be considered a poor kisser to most people. Kissing is more likely to go better if both people can relax, let go a bit (don't think too much) and go with the flow. And a sense of humor can add to the experience too.
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