yokifer Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 Hi there, Thanks for clicking. I have a problem and need some advice. I met this guy 6 months ago during summer vacation. We flirted alot with each other for about a week and got on really well. He told me that things felt right between us and I agreed. I still fancy him loads. A few months later I went to a concert of his (he plays in a band), I just bought a ticket and turned up, it wasn't a date or anything. After the concert finished I told him I was to tired to drive home and asked if he could suggest a local hotel. Not knowing the area he said I could follow him to the hotel as he would drive past it on his way home. I checked in to the hotel and he came with me to the room and we kissed, he wanted more than this however I stopped it from going any further as I was not ready for sex with him. Since meeting this guy six months ago he has not called me once, or e-mailed me of his own accord. He has replied to a few of my e-mails but only in a friendly sort of way. In one e-mail I sent him I poured my heart out to him and told him how much I fancied him, he never replied to this e-mail. I have also called his mobile on a couple of occassions however he never answers it. I have also sent him loads of text messages and he does reply to the odd one or two. I have asked him to a football match with me (his favourite team) however he told me he was busy, so I went with a girlfriend. I have also suggested meeting up with him on a couple of occassions however agin he says he is busy and that his diary is full. I have done a search at the library on the residential register for the area he lives in and I have obtained the addresses and phone numbers for all of the people with the same surname as him. I asked a friend to call round until she located the correct guy, she did this on the fourth attempt and pretended to be interested in booking his band to confirm it was the correct address and phone number, she actually spoke to this guy so i know she had the correct place. I have been warned that this is bordering on harassment and I could end up in trouble. All my friends are telling me that I have become obsessed with this guy and he doesn't seem to be at all interested in me and that he is just a player and was only after one thing. I don't know what to do now and it is driving me crazy. Should I forget about him? Am I obsessed with him?
Hund1976 Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 I would say you're obsessed with him, he isn't returning your calls or trying to make any effort to see you so he clearly isn't interested. Try to get over him and find a new guy to like.
Devildog Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 Should I forget about him? Am I obsessed with him? Yes and Yes. Your friends are right, this is stalking.
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 I fully agree. He is not interested, sorry. You have to move on and find someone new. Discipline yourself to never contact him. Be accountable to a friend on this. Get THERAPY about this issue - sounds like you need it more than I do
very-confused-girl Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 I agree, you are very obsessed with this guy. Stop it.
JoL Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 I agree with everyone else here! You KNOW he isn't interested..and yes, your behaviour is bordering on harassment. Let it go, find someone else, get rid of his phone number, stop asking people about him, delete his email address..you're going to drive yourself nuts otherwise.
Hund1976 Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 hmmmm.... I'd try harder. I hope you're joking, you're going to get this girl thrown in jail.
DinNJ Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 I would hope she has the common sense not to pursue him anymore.
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