you_can_not_see_me Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 So there was this girl in one of my classes, I got the vibe that there was some mutual attraction going on between us, but we both were sorta shying away from one another. fast forward ahead a couple of months and I get her phone number under the pretext that we were going to study with each other. we did meet a couple of times with a couple of other guys to study for some classwork. problem is I didn't really try flirting with her, so I haven't been able to gauge if she is interested or not. all I have is that a couple of time when I was looking at her it seemed to make her shy. I feel like I missed up cause all our classes are over now and I really don't know where we stand, I don't really know if she is interested for sure, and the only way I can contact her now is if I text/call her. so my question is, is it a good idea to text this girl and ask her out in some way? how should I do that even?
Andy_K Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Just ask her to hang out or something. Worst case scenario, she's not interested. At least you'll know and be able to stop beating yourself up about it.
BikerAccnt Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Don't ask her to hang out, ask her out on a date if you want. You don't need to call it a date, but be specific about your planed activity. If you just ask her to hang out, you risk being but in the friend zone box immediately. I'm a firm believer in letting someone know why you want to see them 1
Candy_Pants Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Texting bad. Gives the impression you don't care that much. Call her.
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted May 16, 2014 Author Posted May 16, 2014 Texting bad. Gives the impression you don't care that much. Call her. haha, nah calling her would make the situation much more tense. If I text her it will be easier for her to say no if she's not interested.
johnpatric Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 You shouldnt ask a girl out over text the best way is asking her in person. I think she will apreciate it more than just a text message she will no that you actually have the courage to ask her in person and usally when people ask a girl/boy out on text it is awkquard for the start because you didnt have enough courage to ask her in person. If i were you I would ask her out in person. Or you could send her a note that would be cute. Hope this helped kind of Good Luck anyway
ASG Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Unlike most people here, I am a big advocate of texting. I love it. Don't really like talking on the phone and even with my friends we mostly just text each other. The only people I regularly talk to on the phone are my parents and even then it's mostly through skype. So that said, yes, do text. If she isn't interested, she'll probably let you know. I've been seeing a guy for the past 6 months. We've only spoke on the phone once. His first move was via email (he didn't have my number) one night after we'd all been out drinking. It works. If I hadn't been interested, I would have easily given him an excuse of some kind. I'm much better at writing things, cause you have time to think about your answer...
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted May 16, 2014 Author Posted May 16, 2014 You shouldnt ask a girl out over text the best way is asking her in person. I think she will apreciate it more than just a text message she will no that you actually have the courage to ask her in person and usally when people ask a girl/boy out on text it is awkquard for the start because you didnt have enough courage to ask her in person. If i were you I would ask her out in person. Or you could send her a note that would be cute. Hope this helped kind of Good Luck anyway The problem here is I am not going to see her in person anymore since school is done. While I had the excuse of studying previously to meetup with her that's no longer an option, If I ask if she wants to hang it would more or less be like I am asking her out, cause she would immediately get the idea.
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted May 16, 2014 Author Posted May 16, 2014 Unlike most people here, I am a big advocate of texting. I love it. Don't really like talking on the phone and even with my friends we mostly just text each other. The only people I regularly talk to on the phone are my parents and even then it's mostly through skype. So that said, yes, do text. If she isn't interested, she'll probably let you know. I've been seeing a guy for the past 6 months. We've only spoke on the phone once. His first move was via email (he didn't have my number) one night after we'd all been out drinking. It works. If I hadn't been interested, I would have easily given him an excuse of some kind. I'm much better at writing things, cause you have time to think about your answer... thanks for the post. So should I just text her and ask if she wants to go out somewhere?
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