dudeguy56 Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 I finally feel that I might be getting over her. I'm not constantly thinking about, I am still very attached to her and it sucks for me inside that she doesn't feel the same but the emotional breakdowns have diminished. I do get a bit stressed every now and then because of jealousy but it's not as intense as before. I think it's because I avoid contact with her unless she sends a message to me or we meet each other in school. Ohh right, recap. Yeeeah, so since February I've been spamming posts ****ing everywhere because I have zero experience and can't handle my emotions. I like a girl and have liked her since October. She feel the same but I want to be friends. I haven't told her and I don't plan on doing it either. We have a mutual friend who knows I like her. I'm also suspicious of her possibly liking him as well but I'm probably wrong. They are going to start ballet (or some other sort of dancing. I don't know. Made me so jealous that he's getting to take part in something like that with her. And they decided it in front of me. I felt excluded. :/ ) together. He has told me he doesn't like her and I guess I believe him. I mean, I made it clear that it's fine if he does like her but if that's the case I wanted him to be honest with me because if he was lying it would hurt my feelings to the point of not wanting friendship. I felt it was a bit harsh and asking a lot but I was very fragile at the time and I needed that confirmation. He told me he didn't like her that way. Thing is, he's an extrovert and agrees to everything it feels like. So it's not surprising he'd want to start dancing. I'm just semi-worried that if she does like him she'll be hurt if he doesn't feel the same. I sounds a bit contradictory but I know how it feels and I don't want her to feel the same. I would feel extremely super relieved if I knew for a fact that she didn't like him. I admit it's a bit for selfish reasons but I just really really don't want one of my best friends to get together with the person I like. It'll just make me feel bad again. I think a part of why this has been extra difficult for me is because I feel that I'm ready for a relationship. I've never been in one but I just feel like for once I kinda deserve it. Which again, sounds selfish but I think I should be able to make that observation. I've never even kissed anyone and it's really annoying hearing people talk about it around me. Even my crush has mentioned that she made out with her ex... I don't want to go into it but I hate hearing about stuff like that because I've never gotten the chance to experience it myself and I beat myself up about it thinking it's because I am a certain way or do something wrong. But that's just because I have a bad view of myself (which I'm aware of). It's just that these problems like the one with my crush just reinforce my insecurities. Uuuugh, anyway. Enough about getting my thoughts written down (I do it for therapeutic reasons ) I feel that I'm thinking less about her and I'm not as obsessed (even if I still really really like her). Are these signs that I might be getting over her? Or can the ****storm come back again? Any people with experience? As I said, I try to avoid her but she's still a friend and to an extent I still need to be in some kind of contact. During the summer break, she, I, the mutual friend and some other people are going to sleep at the mutual friends country house for example so that'll be unavoidable. And next year I might end up in her class (50% chance) because I changed program in my school. The mutual friend goes to another program so at least I don't need to be in a class with both of them. Anyway, this was probably written poorly and very disorganized but generally the question is: Are these signs I might be getting over her?
Kansas87 Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Wait. You said she likes you but YOU just want to be friends. But you obviously do not want to just be friends. I'm guessing that was a typo and you meant that SHE just wants to be friends, because if it wasn't then just ask her out already. No, it really doesn't sound like you are even remotely over this crush. You really need to 1.) step up your avoidance of her- if she notices and asks you about it, tell her the truth: you have a big crush on her, can't just be friends, and need some space until you've moved on. 2.) find someone else, who is interested, on whom to redirect your attentions.
learning_slowly Posted May 18, 2014 Posted May 18, 2014 I don't think you'd be posting about her if you were over her. I could write something about my ex here, to correlate, but today I'm not thinking about her. Tomorrow who knows. It usually takes a lot of time to fully get them out of your system. I mean , I've started enjoying things again, but it will take a lot longer until I don't think about her. Then you get to the stage where you meet somebody else and you wonder why you wasted the time! 1
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