Meow-mix Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 So my boyfriend and I have been steady for about 8 months and the first 4 were on and off just casually seeing each other. I recently was on his fb profile and was curios what his ex (whom he broke up with just before meeting me) looked like. When I was going through her pictures I saw one of him and her from back when we were still casual but getting serious and they were cosy at a wedding. This really upset me (obviously) Do I have a right to be mad? It looked like they hadn't broken up at all. I'm living with him now and I get bad anxiety when confronting people Should I let it slide and try to forget it or should I try to confront him? If so how?
MidwestUSA Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 (edited) You have no right to be mad. You went looking for a pic of her, and you found it! How did you think you would feel? They were together, you and he weren't serious. It's history now, you need to forget about it. Do not confront him. You moved in with him after only four months of relative seriousness? And immediately after his breakup from her? This, coupled with your insecurity, is not going to make for anything good. Edited May 16, 2014 by MidwestUSA 4
PegNosePete Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Why do you think you need to have a "right" to have your feelings validated? Feelings are neither right nor wrong. They are your feelings whether some random strangers on the internet tell you that you are entitled to them or not. If you are hurt and upset then you are hurt and upset - being told that you should or shouldn't be feeling this way doesn't really help does it? You will still have those feelings.
johnpatric Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 You have no right to be mad. You went looking for a pic of her, and you found it! How did you think you would feel? They were together, you and he weren't serious. It's history now, you need to forget about it. Do not confront him. You moved in with him after only four months of relative seriousness? And immediately after his breakup from her? This, coupled with your insecurity, is not going to make for anything good. ^^^ I agree with this..
Andy_K Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 You were casual. If this kind of thing bothers you, get serious quicker. It's fine to feel upset and let him know this, if he's a decent boyfriend he will give you all the reassurance you need. It's not fine to be angry at him though. Tread carefully. 2
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