jakeboy Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 I know the title makes me seem like an ass, and rightfully so. But advice would be greatly appreciated. I just hooked up with someone in my high school but kind of regret it. She had little to no experience and I believe that she will go squealing about it to everybody. The thing is people aren't really fond of her. And I don't want people to think lesser of me because I hooked up with this girl. For the most part, I don't care about my reputation but I have been conversing with another girl who I like better than the girl I just hooked up with. I have tried to make moves with this other girl and I get the vibe back that she's interested but she hasn't done anything back. I don't want anything to get out and lessen my chances with the other girl. How do I let the girl down easy? I regret hooking up with her and don't want her going around telling everybody I know I sound like an ass. Each time I read this back it makes me seem like more of an ass but any advice would be greatly appreciated
ascendotum Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Yeah you put yourself in a bit of an awkward situation. You really should have held off on this 'not so popular' girl until you knew one way or the other on the girl you really fancy. I get it...you're young, horny and had the opportunity so went for it. So what are the expectations on this girl you hooked up with? I get the impression she might want more than just that one hookup. While she might not shoot her mouth off, she will tell a friend or two, who will tell a few more friends, who'll tell a few more friends. Be good if you can stop it before it happens. If she sees hooking up with you as a way to boost her popularity, she'll blab. I really don't know what you could say to keep her quiet without the girl getting upset, if it does not mutually benefit her. I'd chat to her to begin with asap, so you know where you stand. You have to let her know how you prefer to keep your private life private. You have not told anyone and don't have any intention of bragging about doing her and you hope she is discrete. Its just the way you are, a private person on these matters. You dont want a rep and dont want her to get a rep. If you can pitch it that maybe the other girls will give her shyte over it if they knew. If she does not like this other girl you plan on asking out, then she could easily blab then if she sees you two lovey dovey. If she starts to talk about it not being an issue if you are gf/bf then you need another story on that. Maybe someone here can come up with a good strategy. good luck
Mrin Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Yes you kind of are coming across as an ass. I guess my advice to you is that actions have consequences. You just need to live with them. 2
Candy_Pants Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 "Hey, let's keep this between us." You're an ass. And hopefully she will respect your wishes and you'll get to bang the more popular girl .
ExpatInItaly Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Yes you kind of are coming across as an ass. I guess my advice to you is that actions have consequences. You just need to live with them. This. So much THIS. You made your bed, OP. Put on the big-boy pants and deal.
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