Elle1975 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I too don't know how to start dating. A part of me can't help but compare with this new guy with my ex. When I met my ex, we were both ready to get into a relationship so perhaps timing helps. We rushed into things abit too fast in hindsight. I'm still fresh from my breakup. And hesitant to get hurt again. Still, it might be a good thing, less haste and just taking things slow. I'm trying to be fair and give things a chance. I'm not 100% ready, I feel it's hard to open myself up as the breakup is still fresh, it'll never be like the ease I felt with my ex. I just got to accept that. But I'm committed to move on and find new happiness and not pine over someone who doesn't value me. I did meet a lot of people at the gym. Women though, as my classes are not exactly overtaken by the opposite gender. I go to the swimming exercise classes. 1
sugarlove Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I did meet a lot of people at the gym. Women though, as my classes are not exactly overtaken by the opposite gender. I go to the swimming exercise classes. That's great. exercise fills not only your time but lots of happy hormones. It's good to know that sometimes being the dumpee means we are pushed to better ourselves whereas my dumper has probably learn nothing and simply start finding another female to date. We will only get better and grow better! )
Elle1975 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 That's great. exercise fills not only your time but lots of happy hormones. It's good to know that sometimes being the dumpee means we are pushed to better ourselves whereas my dumper has probably learn nothing and simply start finding another female to date. We will only get better and grow better! ) Yes, only someone stole my bathing suit.. lol true story. I forgot it in the showers and someone stole it! Unbelievable.. To date I also find that advertising is good. My friends know that I'm now looking. I tried eharmony and I wouldn't recommend it. I was told Match was better, but I don't think I'll try. Maybe. We'll see.
FortunateSon Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 Well... I think only you have the answers to that. May I ask, how do you meet so many women? I met a lot via OLD, as well as some in "real" life. There is always some red flag or deal breaker that appears before too long that makes me lose interest. Surprisingly, I have actually become good friends with some of the people I have dated on OLD?
edgygirl Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 (edited) Me and my guy been together since January and broke up 12 days ago. I went on a date 5 days later. It was terrible and I felt like running away. I waited one hour to not hurt the guys' feelings. I thought I was being super nice but I think people notice things. In the beginning he said he was burned by dating and that if it didn't work with me he was going to take a few months break. In the end he said: "I'm sorry you're not more into it" (into him). Haaa. I think people notice when you're not flirtative or so. I actually went out and met girlfriends/friends that whole week as I didn't want to be alone and think about my ex. I was trying not to hurt but the last days it hit me that I miss him a lot, and that I need to grieve it at least a little or it won't pass any time soon. So I spent the last 3 days exchanging sad emails with him and listening to sad music and grieving. Between today and yesterday I went online and met 4 super interesting guys and about 3 have real potential. I am trying to think there are more people out there but it's so hard for me to find people I like for real, it takes me years to meet someone to fall in love, and I was starting to fall for this guy. One of the guys I met is also recently broken and we're consoling each other through text. I wonder if my next relationship will have to necessarily be a rebound one. I don't want rebound, I don't want casual. I want someone cool to love again. Edited June 14, 2014 by edgygirl
mattny Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 10 months post BU. She walked out early september. She started seein someone almost the week after we split (gut instinct said shed been cheating on me and it was true), guess it didnt last because she went to a NYE party with another guy and theyve been dating ever since. 4 years and 30 days away from proposing to her. Dodged a bullet on that one lol. Not really interested in dating at the moment, met quite a few women but they were lackluster or just full of themselves. Having too much fun just going out and doing my own thing
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