iPhone Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 We have been together a little over 2 months. I made another topic with some more details, but basically: * She is stressed out because she started her externship which is about 8 hours every day * She also started a summer class, an extra 4 hours every Tuesday and Thursday * She had a breakdown before this began saying she was scared she was pushing me away, and she wants me to not let her... she cried and had a breakdown about how she has no time for herself, and how stressed she is. After she was done crying, she apologized and said she feels better now. She held me tight the entire time she cried. * Now that the externship started, we don't talk as much anymore. The texts are many many hours apart due to the externship, and she seems more distant. She will still use kiss face emotes here and there, though. When we hang out on that one day, she seemed like normal, affectionate and such, even though the texts are not nearly as affectionate as they used to be. I'm confused. * We see each other maybe 1 day a week. This feels so different than when we first started dating.. Is this a situation, do you think, where I have to just be supportive and remain at a distance so as to not add pressure to her schedule? Or should I do something and fight somehow because of this distant feeling I'm having? Her externship is about 6 weeks more. Should I just keep doing what I'm doing even though it feels like she's being more distant, when we text etc she is not affectionate like she used to be.. or should I do something about it all somehow?
slizl Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 (edited) Welcome to the real world...Jobs and responsibilities are a real b****. Edited May 15, 2014 by slizl 1
d0nnivain Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 This is probably her 1st time having to deal with "adult" issues & all the balancing that takes. If you want this to work you back off somewhat, especially about your expectations of what she can give you. You give her what you want in terms of texts, inspirational messages on social media, phone calls etc but make it very clear to her it's OK if she doesn't reciprocate while doing her externship. When you see her that one time per week plan fun, relaxing dates & don't put more pressure on her. When the externship is over you can revisit how much effort both of you put in. If you don't want to deal with how unbalanced things will be until she gets a better handle on all she's juggling just bow out now. Personally at 2 months in, I wouldn't stick around if it was me & there was all this drama / problems so early.
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