BarackObama Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 That they can't attract opposite sex. If yes, Are you living in peace? What type of hobbies do you have?
mrnova66 Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 I expect to be single the rest of my life. Hopefully I'm wrong, but I doubt it. Dating had too much bullsh*t and games BEFORE smartphones, apps, and social media. Now its literally impossible to get a date without taking part in all of that crap. Its pretty much required that you bend, twist, or break your standards when it comes to communicating with a woman. Since my divorce in 2009.....its seems every woman I come in contact with cant remember anything for more than 5 mins....has 3-4 emergencies a day....and just expects me to continually chase her no matter how she treats me. MAN!!!That is the truth there. It was bad back in the 1990s when I was in my 20s. Now it is nothing but one giant free for all. One bad thing that happen. AND CLICK!!!On to the next one. Now I see why marriage is on the decline. To me society is doomed. I am so glad I am getting older. And even death!!!!! 1
salparadise Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 I have accepted the possibility but refuse to give up hope. I was divorced in 2009 as well and have dated several women. I might have married the second one but it was long distance and she finally called it off after more than a year. Since then the women I've dated have had expectations that didn't align with mine, the sex wasn't that great, and once all of that becomes obvious I just end it amicably. The one I'm dating now has some attitudes that aren't perfectly aligned (she's a princess) but the sex is outstanding so I'm sticking with it for awhile. But given that I yam who I yam and they are too, I just don't know... you can't really force it, you just have to make sure the window of opportunity is wide open and try to live well in the meantime.
carhill Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 I wouldn't exactly call it 'defeat', rather an adjustment of priorities, but I'm fine with not blowing the ladies skirts up. BTDT. Done. 1
potsticker Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 accept defeat? you've got the rest of your life to snatch victory from the jaws of defeat honestly that attitude needs to go asap if you have the courage to want more for yourself 1
Targetlock Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 A positive attitude and new way of thinking will get you twice as far as a negative one believing you are going to lose is the first step to losing. Yeah I know I'm coming off as a bit of motivational thinker but i've gone through a rough patch and have come out trying a new attitude and way of thinking but yeah I know how you feel, that was me a while ago. 2
mrnova66 Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 (edited) Positive thinking does nothing. I can have the same mindset and go on 30 dates.....with 29 of them crash and burning....with 1 of them being successful...its simply a random chance of events. If I have a mature, well written, profile on a dating site....do they know my current state of mind? Do they know if I am negative or positive? NO they dont. But they will make a decision to contact me using a totally different criteria. I cant make them contact me. Ive tested this over and over online.....and guess what? I get more women wanting to talk to me when I had a negative laced profile, than with a positive one. Positive tends to blend in......it doesnt always work in reality the way paid motivational speakers preach that it does. there is some truth in this post. Well look at all the scumbags out there. There are no shortage of women out there that just love these types. Lets get real here. I have never seen a full blown scumbag single. most are married. But never single. I read on these threads about confidence. It does not mean chit in the grand of things. I hardly call a jailbird,drunk,drug dealer,abuser,user and a bank robber confident. But yet I have never seen one of these winners single. Most are married. But never single Edited May 16, 2014 by mrnova66 spelling 1
TalesoftheWireMonkey Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Men, There's a movement out there and it's growing. Sensible men are realizing that there is nothing positive for us in the modern dating environment. I don't think I can post links, but if you google mgtow or red pill you might find interesting content. OP, Don't think of it as defeat. think of it as waking up to the fact you are in a game that is stacked against you and a game that no longer caters to decency, honesty and sensitivity. Your hobbies can be as broad and intensive as you can imagine and you will have the freedom to pursue them. 1
OnwardandUpward Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 I am female and at 49 i think i accept defeat. Divorced twice. The first we were too young and the second - well i never saw it coming - i dont think i could date again. I could not play any games to try and attract a man. I am slender and attractive - i am an awesome cook - but my back is severly broken and i will never work in my life again except my own little business selling at markets. But all in all i dont think i have anything to offer anyone. So why would i bother - go on a dating site and write in my profile - hey my back is really badly broken - sex with me would never be the wild thang and i will never work in my life. Yeah hahaha that would surely attract someone. Oh and on top of that - i am an artist and often i am at my table at 4am painting and 4 in the afternoon i am still painting and my hair has not been brushed and my clothes are covered in paint oh and they will be clothes that i slept in. Do you think i should use that as a dating profile hahaha but to be honest - i wouldn't even want to date someone that did not find all of the above to be as sexy as hell - so looks like i accept defeat 1
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