Rig88 Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 My ex girlfriend has been on my mind a lot lately for lots of different reasons. I went to a friends house last night , it was originally meant to be a guys gaming session but it turned into a pretty heavy night of drinking. I started to want to message her the drunker I got. I eventually went out my friends garden for a cigarette and sent her a pretty lengthy Facebook message. I carried on the night as normal , feeling relieved that I got things off my chest. I woke up this morning in horror , I feel so embarrassed. I can see that she's read the message but she's not yet replied. I really could do with some advice on handling this. I don't know whether I should send an apology message straight away , text her about it or wait for her to reply and go from there.
Haydn Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 It happens mate, chalk it down to experience. Don`t send anything else. Stay away from the `mothers ruin`, for a while. 1
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 I think you should text her and say "Sorry for my message last night, had a few too many with some friends (pretend you were somewhere related to you guys) and say you just felt a bit nostalgic and in the cold hard light of day you realise it was a bad move to do that and you are sorry for any upset" x
xUnknown Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 Don't say anything. Be done with it. It just makes it look like you're digging for a response from her. 1
Rig88 Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 I drunkenly messaged my ex on Facebook last night and have spent the whole day stressing on a reply! I knew she'd get back to me eventually as she's not the type to just ignore someone. I poured my heart out to her apologising for all of my mistakes and asked her if she wanted to meet up for a chat. Her response has been pretty neutral and hasn't given too much away in way of her feelings but she has agreed to meet for a drink. Although I'm really happy about this I'm feeling really nervous now about meeting her. Has anyone else experienced this? I really hope that it goes well.
Zahara Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 I drunkenly messaged my ex on Facebook last night and have spent the whole day stressing on a reply! I knew she'd get back to me eventually as she's not the type to just ignore someone. I poured my heart out to her apologising for all of my mistakes and asked her if she wanted to meet up for a chat. Her response has been pretty neutral and hasn't given too much away in way of her feelings but she has agreed to meet for a drink. Although I'm really happy about this I'm feeling really nervous now about meeting her. Has anyone else experienced this? I really hope that it goes well. Rig, after all that you inflicted on this woman, do you really believe that you are able and capable of giving her what she needs? A healthy, fulfilling, committed and happy relationship? Are you emotionally and mentally healthy? Are you in a good place in your life? Drunken text? Doesn't sound like it. You mentioned you were involved in two relationships after ending it with your ex and now you're rethinking of revisiting your ex after both those relationships went down the tubes. You mentioned that you wanted to apologize to alleviate YOUR guilt, not for her benefit. You mentioned that she gave you a million chances and you kept repeating bad behavior. You mentioned she gave you everything and yet you treated her badly. Maybe I am projecting, but I have been with a guy like you. Treated me badly. I gave him many chances. He went off to other women and came back to me for all the wrong reasons only to hurt me again. I caution you to be very careful in your current mindset and to please check your motives. If this is mostly self-serving, step back. Know that she is probably still emotionally affected by you, she's possibly vulnerable and hopeful. This is someone's life you're playing with. You better be sure you know what you want and why you're doing what you are doing. 2
No Limit Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 You gave her "breadcrumbs" and she reacted to them. The outcome won't necessarily be anything serious, especially with that history. 1
Mondmellonw Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 Rig, after all that you inflicted on this woman, do you really believe that you are able and capable of giving her what she needs? A healthy, fulfilling, committed and happy relationship? Are you emotionally and mentally healthy? Are you in a good place in your life? Drunken text? Doesn't sound like it. You mentioned you were involved in two relationships after ending it with your ex and now you're rethinking of revisiting your ex after both those relationships went down the tubes. You mentioned that you wanted to apologize to alleviate YOUR guilt, not for her benefit. You mentioned that she gave you a million chances and you kept repeating bad behavior. You mentioned she gave you everything and yet you treated her badly. Maybe I am projecting, but I have been with a guy like you. Treated me badly. I gave him many chances. He went off to other women and came back to me for all the wrong reasons only to hurt me again. I caution you to be very careful in your current mindset and to please check your motives. If this is mostly self-serving, step back. Know that she is probably still emotionally affected by you, she's possibly vulnerable and hopeful. This is someone's life you're playing with. You better be sure you know what you want and why you're doing what you are doing. OP, Zahara is right. Something like this also happened to me. My ex as never able to fully commit and appreciate me as I was But then, after some failed relationships, he told me I was the "love of his life" and bla bla. Seriously, think about her too.
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