Allyd12 Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 (edited) I'm 18 she's 17. It's been 6 days since the break up. (lasted 5 months) Her feelings weren't as strong as mine, and she felt like she wanted something more. But her feelings were still there for me. Wanted to be single to have more freedom because we spent way too much time together and I was being too clingy, and we also hardly ever went on fun outings together and stuff (movies, beach, dinner, etc). But we had an amazing honeymoon stage and made so many promises to each other. I'm pretty sure her friends had a big influence on her to break up with me, because she changed her mind 2-3 times, and they are always on her side supporting her. We were meant to have a one week break for her to figure out what she truly wanted. But this only lasted one day, then I messaged her asking how her feelings were. 2 Hours later we broke up. She was very upset when the break up happened, because it was so hard for her to let me go. She also was so upset at the fact that she hurt me so much, and put a lot of the blame on herself. The breakup was over Facebook. Anyways, when she broke up with me she said these things: - Please don't forget about me, I wont forget about you - Please please please stay in my life, I want to know you're alive and doing well - If I missed you in two months would you want me to come back to you? She just blocked me on Instagram, 10 minutes ago. And deleted all the photos of me and her. She told a friend two days ago that she practically hates relationships now, and that she just wants to be single for ages. But she also said that she feels like the has lost the best thing that has ever happened to her, it doesn't know if she can ever find somebody like me again. She was really confused and scared about breaking up with me, because she feels like it was a huge mistake but thinks it will be better for her later on in the year. I still have feelings for her and I know the mistakes I've made during the relationship, and i've learnt from that. It's hurting me pretty bad right now. I put in 100% and was pretty much perfect to her. We have had no contact in 5 days. I deleted her off Facebook and Snapchat but she is still following my Instagram page. A friend told me to wait until Sunday and message her asking to see me in person to try reconcile with her. But I feel like I should wait at least 2 weeks for that. I don't know. Is there a chance she will come back to me? At the moment that's all I want. Because she was so amazing and I know it will take me so long to get over her. I told her after the break up to use the next one or two weeks to do some soul searching and really figure out if this was the right decision, because she never got a chance to. She said "Okay I will" Schoolies is a one week long event at the end of the year where all teenagers finishing high school go with their friends and celebrate. There is usually around 50 thousand 17-18 year olds at the one place, and basically everyone just gets drunk, high, and have sex with each other. Lot of hooks up and sexual contact involved. She wasn't the type of girl who would go around and get with randoms, but she still mainly broke up with me because she has Schoolies in 7 months. I don't know if she was worried about kissing or having sex with someone while extremely drunk and unable to control it, or because she felt like she wanted to go around and **** everyone at schoolies. Thanks heaps. Edited May 15, 2014 by Allyd12
xUnknown Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 She needs to grow up. She doesn't know what she wants. If she wanted to be with you and loved you, she wouldn't go and do whatever with randos at schoolies.... Shes immature because she doesn't want to feel tied down when this time comes. You mentioned she blocked you in IG, yet still follows you....how does that even work? Stay NC man. Don't contact her. She needs to realize this on her own. She doesn't know what she wants, she needs to figure it out. She wants you to stay in her life because she wants to know you're still an option for her if she figures her **** out. She's leaving you as a backup plan. If she wanted to be with you, she would. Stay NC and heal up. Don't worry about what my or may not happen at schoolies...you won't get anywhere with healing if you keep that on your mind. 2
No Limit Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 Stay away from her, she's not mature enough for a relationship. I'm surprised she'd directly tell/hint you to wait a few months for her.
Author Allyd12 Posted May 15, 2014 Author Posted May 15, 2014 She needs to grow up. She doesn't know what she wants. If she wanted to be with you and loved you, she wouldn't go and do whatever with randos at schoolies.... Shes immature because she doesn't want to feel tied down when this time comes. You mentioned she blocked you in IG, yet still follows you....how does that even work? Stay NC man. Don't contact her. She needs to realize this on her own. She doesn't know what she wants, she needs to figure it out. She wants you to stay in her life because she wants to know you're still an option for her if she figures her **** out. She's leaving you as a backup plan. If she wanted to be with you, she would. Stay NC and heal up. Don't worry about what my or may not happen at schoolies...you won't get anywhere with healing if you keep that on your mind. Sorry, I was editing my post as it goes. She blocked me on Instagram, Facebook and on her phone. It was because she doesn't want to go through the pain of seeing me talking to/having a photo with another girl.
xUnknown Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Sorry, I was editing my post as it goes. She blocked me on Instagram, Facebook and on her phone. It was because she doesn't want to go through the pain of seeing me talking to/having a photo with another girl. Good, she did you a favor...now you don't have to block her. Stay NC..don't creep on her and don't ask your/her friends how she's doing.
Author Allyd12 Posted May 16, 2014 Author Posted May 16, 2014 Good, she did you a favor...now you don't have to block her. Stay NC..don't creep on her and don't ask your/her friends how she's doing. I just feel like she has made a mistake and I think she has as well, but just doesn't realise it yet. Is it possible she can change her mind and come back loyal? I just want to know. If we got back together because she felt she was wrong, I would set some boundaries and ask her to tell me whenever there is a problem because that didn't occur our first time.
xUnknown Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 I just feel like she has made a mistake and I think she has as well, but just doesn't realise it yet. Is it possible she can change her mind and come back loyal? I just want to know. If we got back together because she felt she was wrong, I would set some boundaries and ask her to tell me whenever there is a problem because that didn't occur our first time. Yeah, its possible...but she has to be the one to realize that she was the one that made the mistake. There is nothing you can do to make her realize the mistake. Pick yourself back up and move forward. Its only when they see how well that you're doing without them that they want you back...and by then, you may not even want her back. Focus on you and improving yourself.
Author Allyd12 Posted May 17, 2014 Author Posted May 17, 2014 Yeah, its possible...but she has to be the one to realize that she was the one that made the mistake. There is nothing you can do to make her realize the mistake. Pick yourself back up and move forward. Its only when they see how well that you're doing without them that they want you back...and by then, you may not even want her back. Focus on you and improving yourself. That was basically my plan. To have NC for as long as possible to let her think, but to also let myself heal. And I am hoping that maybe in a few weeks or months I will have forgotten everything and moved on. And if by then she realises she has made a mistake, I have full control from that point. It's just so hard right now. I feel like I've lost an amazing thing. And she does as well.
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