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irresolute Established Member

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Be honest. How many times you:

 

-felt butterflies when thinking of another person

-you were excited of seeing that person

-you couldn't stop thinking about them

-you wanted to contact just to say hello

-just thinking on them made you smile

-you though they were the one

-and so more. You know what I mean right?

 

 

How many times in your life with different people??

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Seven times, sadly. Apparently I don't have very good judgment, haha. Just kidding - in all seriousness though, it often feels like that in the beginning, sometimes it wears off, sometimes it doesn't, sometimes it develops into something way deeper.

 

Four times in my life I felt like that the instant I laid eyes on someone - I later ended up falling in love with every single one of those people and vice versa (except the last, which was very recent, and is still kinda up in the air).

 

One of them I still feel that way about, 5 years later, he is "the one" even though our lives went in different directions and led to us not being together. But I think there can be more than one "the one"… :)

Omei Established Member

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Once so far out of a few people.

D.Mc. Established Member

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Hi Irresolute,

 

Of the 6 "feelings" listed I've only had about 3 AND they did not last more than about 6-8 months into the relationships, every time. These are strong indicators of attraction, but after they level off, is there something more? We are supposed to have all of those indicators in the beginning, it's our endocrine system's way of trying to make us pair up & reproduce. What I believe a stable, lasting relationship is made of are the feelings that follow the "butterflies". For me each time they were literally like real butterflies: Beautiful, fragile & short-lived. Best of luck w/yours.

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Nothing particularly "unique" about these "feelings"...

 

In fact I'm sure many of Justin Bieber's fan can completely relate.

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ExpatInItaly Established Member

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A few times. Maybe 3 or 4?

d0nnivain Established Member

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A few. Infatuation is fun

 

Fortunately I still feel that way thinking about DH especially if we're apart for more than 1 day. :love:

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gaius Established Member

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I'm up to 3 so far.

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A few however life has taut me its usually a waist of time..

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xxmusical Established Member

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I think those feelings applied to most of my ex-bfs/crushes. But none of them lasted as long as my feelings toward my SO :love:

CarrieT Established Member

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More than a dozen times...

 

It *never* lasts!

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saltyfishhead666 Established Member

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Be honest. How many times you:

 

-felt butterflies when thinking of another person

-you were excited of seeing that person

-you couldn't stop thinking about them

-you wanted to contact just to say hello

-just thinking on them made you smile

-you though they were the one

-and so more. You know what I mean right?

 

 

How many times in your life with different people??

 

ummm lets see ex husband - I am totally putting that down to my young stupidity

 

someone I spoke too online and it turned into a LDR - I used to wake up excited every day ready to skype

 

my ex fiance - Not so much when he lived localish, when he moved 4 hours away with work I found that the butterflies got bigger, I would think about what we had done the previous time I saw him and smile at our antics, I thought he was IT!!!

 

He wasn't :laugh:

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Gosh... I don't think I've ever properly felt that since my 12th grade crush :p

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irresolute Established Member

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Then, do you all think there is no the one? That one can have those feelings for another person several times during our lives?

 

What triggered those feelings? Any special characteristic?

saltyfishhead666 Established Member

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Then, do you all think there is no the one? That one can have those feelings for another person several times during our lives?

 

What triggered those feelings? Any special characteristic?

 

I don't think we have 1 "the one" there are too many people in this world to have just 1.

 

I think you THINK they are the one and usually aren't.

 

I think everyone would love to be that couple that meet young and die old together. :)

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Be honest. How many times you:

 

-felt butterflies when thinking of another person

-you were excited of seeing that person

-you couldn't stop thinking about them

-you wanted to contact just to say hello

-just thinking on them made you smile

-you though they were the one

-and so more. You know what I mean right?

 

 

How many times in your life with different people??

 

I've lost count. I just let it happen. If you don't let yourself feel, what's the point in living? It's all about that roller coaster... ups and downs.

Michelle ma Belle Established Member

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Countless times.

 

I mean, isn't that how you're supposed to feel at the beginning with EVERY new love interest?

 

If not, then why the hell are you with them in the first place :p

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Damaged217 Established Member

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I felt all of those things with my first love. Felt that for a year and a half and then things went south.

 

Have felt all of those things except feeling that they were "the one" with 2 other guys since then. And I've dated A LOT.

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Once, but it was butterflies only. With his behavior his character flaws were on display for everyone so I knew I had to keep a safe distance from him.

The feeling was amazing though, I really cherished it, almost more than his company to be honest. :D

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Be honest. How many times you:

 

-felt butterflies when thinking of another person - countless!

-you were excited of seeing that person - countless!

-you couldn't stop thinking about them - countless!

-you wanted to contact just to say hello - countless!

-just thinking on them made you smile - countless!

-you though they were the one - countless!

-and so more. You know what I mean right?

 

 

How many times in your life with different people??

- countless!
pteromom Established Member

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Then, do you all think there is no the one? That one can have those feelings for another person several times during our lives?

 

What triggered those feelings? Any special characteristic?

 

There is a "the one".

 

But "the one" has nothing to do with all these butterfly feelings and giddiness. "The one" has to do with someone who truly gets you, accepts you, loves you for who you are, and you feel the same about them. You can never know whether someone is "the one" until you KNOW them. And you can never KNOW them until you've been through some of life's ups and downs with them.

 

The butterfly feelings are just infatuation. They are fun, and can be quite intoxicating, but they aren't anything of substance, and have nothing to do with love.

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A few times, though I don't think I've ever thought they were the ONE. Maybe with my first BF.

 

I don't know if I like it as much as other people though... Those butterflies rapidly turn into horrible anxiety. And then comes the insomnia and the not eating... As you ACHE for the next time you're with that person.

I find it a bit much. But it is excited, no doubt.

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A few times may be 2 or 3

dichotomy Established Member

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Only Once ......and it never went anywhere, but her friend had them for me turned out to be the best love I ever had.

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irresolute Established Member

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Some people say countless and some others say 2 or three times.

 

What is the characteristic that this person had it made you feel those butterflies? I'm interested to know if those toxic feelings as someone said, are repeatable or one can feel that intense with only one person.

 

 

Various answers so far.

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