WHOLESALEPACK Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 (edited) Bull$h!t. She can't hold her booze and it's not bad enough she tells him "F" you but then doubles down on her stupidity and throws a drink in his face. So he leaves to avoid a conflict and has every right to be pissed of because of her ignorance and he's also wrong? He has every right to be pissed and if he needs a few days to cool off, then I think the guy is a whole lot better person than you do. At least when he's ready to talk to her, he would have calmed down and could be rational rather then go at her full bore with anger. If he needs a couple days or a week then so be it. I tip my hat to the guy for doing things a little more grown up which she should take a lesson.Right on and I fully agree. What's going on that it seems some women have suddenly gone too far into getting into a man's face and egging him for so long, throwing drinks at him or in other occasions even slapping a man when drunk? Do women like the OP even know that we as men might one day slip and accidentally lose self-control. The problem with that is we would then get into serious trouble so we always have to exercise self-control and self-restrain no matter what. Do they even know how hard (but not impossible) that is for us? Most important why do they do these types of thing when most of us would destroy them if we lose self-control and don't leave like the OP's bf did? Do they even know who exactly they're dealing with when throwing a drink in man's face? This is how a physical altercation would start out as if a man threw a drink in another man's face or all the other things women do. Edited May 16, 2014 by WHOLESALEPACK
Author cupcakesluv92 Posted May 16, 2014 Author Posted May 16, 2014 you know - he's totally right about that. what you did to him isn't good - it's abusive. is there abuse in your background (childhood/etc)? do you have family that have alcohol issues?There is none of that in the family and no, I have never been abused ever. I know and realize it was wrong what I did. I have never done anything like this before. I myself have both, and have been known to have some really crazy drunken abusive rages because of it. It takes a lot of booze to get me to that point, and although it stings, I just cannot drink that much anymore. I have to limit myself to 2-3 drinks if I go out, and no more than that. When I reach that "point of no return" - I do things like this.I'm glad you learned what's your drinking limit as I now know mine too. perhaps this is something you can think about. I know you said you've never done this before, but there is no guarantee that you won't do it again. if your boyfriend is willing to forgive you for this, you'll have to make some changes in your behavior. - cut down the drinking to a manageable level. - REALLY COMMUNICATE about these issues that you guys fought about. - do some therapy about why you react like this. - empathize with your boyfriend and truly see his point of view. you are a scary person to him right now. you'll have a lot of work to do to rebuild that trust.I will. We will be having a discussion tomorrow. I don't it has to do with the fact of appearing as a scary person to him but rather it was very low of me to act that way and treat him in that manner.
Author cupcakesluv92 Posted May 16, 2014 Author Posted May 16, 2014 Have you tried to meet him?? if no then just try to meed him and ask him why he is doing this. or call him again and see if he will give you response or not if he will then try to meet him and talk him in person and if he will not give you response then just give him some space when he realize that whatever he is doing it is wrong then he will definitely contact you..I'll meet him tomorrow.
Author cupcakesluv92 Posted May 16, 2014 Author Posted May 16, 2014 (edited) People drunk in public look disgusting, especially women. I'm sure your being drunk in itself turned your bf off. That coupled with the F you and then your drink thrown in his face is not something that he can easilly forget. You must have looked a sight! Very ugly, very, very ugly.I'm very sure this is what happened. I appeared ugly when I acted that way. To other posters regarding if this was indeed my first incidence of insulting him like that, yes it was. Overall we have a good relationship and even thought once in a while there are arguments like in any relationship, insults have never been hurled out nor any of this ever happened until I got drunk in that moment. My first time I've ever gotten that way and I truly want to make it up to him. Also as someone else asked if he always avoid conflicts? Generally he likes expressing himself but it was this moment, he was truly upset so I understand why he didn't immediately want to talk about it. Edited May 16, 2014 by cupcakesluv92
whichwayisup Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 Ok just got a reply back from him and he was upset. He stated he thinking things and felt assaulted when I threw my drink at him and he would be ready to discuss things and what I did by tomorrow. This part of his message really got me thinking: What do you think others would have thought about me if I were yelling in your face and threw my drink? Don't think to minimize this just because it was you that did it and not me. Do think about it and let it set in. Also, don't drink PERIOD. If you do and say things you normally wouldn't do when sober, then don't drink. Some people cannot handle alcohol, some become nasty drunks. When you do see him, just hear him out, don't justify your behaviour. Apologize, own what you did and ask him to give you a chance to make it up to him, to show that you are trustworthy and genuinely regret deeply what you did and said. This is his call, like or not, it *may* be a reason for breaking up. Many don't put up with any abusive behaviour, sober or drunk.
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