Luna33 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 (edited) This man seemed interested and called me the next days after our get-together, until he suddenly stopped and haven't heard from him since then. I assume he thought I wasn't interested because: -I didn't let him pay my half (I asked him out). - Didn't flirt back (I was only being friendly). -My texts were a bit short and not enthusiastic. (I'm shy!) Thing is I'm somewhat shy woman, and I'm approached by men very often, but sometimes get nervous or don't know what else to say and they see me as cold, distant, boring, who knows. However, I want to show my interest by texting him, but think that would make me look needy and insecure, after I've been seemingly dumped by him... or am I wrong and he felt dumped by my behaviour? Should I just cross my fingers, waiting him to come around? Hahaha So... would the best move in this case? Edited May 14, 2014 by Luna33
mirage12 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 This man seemed interested and called me the next days after our get-together, until he suddenly stopped and haven't heard from him since then. I assume he thought I wasn't interested because: -I didn't let him pay my half (I asked him out). - Didn't flirt back (I was only being friendly). -My texts were a bit short and not enthusiastic. (I'm shy!) Thing is I'm somewhat shy woman, and I'm approached by men very often, but sometimes get nervous or don't know what else to say and they see me as cold, distant, boring, who knows. However, I want to show my interest by texting him, but think that would make me look needy and insecure, after I've been seemingly dumped by him... or am I wrong and he felt dumped by my behaviour? Should I just cross my fingers, waiting him to come around? Hahaha So... would the best move in this case? If you like him, call/text him. A guy will appreciate that. Don't worry about all the dumb games and don't overthink it. If he doesn't respond or return your call, then you know he's not interested. 2
hasaquestion Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 He found someone else most likely. Even if he liked you and just thought you were cold and not interested, most guys are too dense to give up that abruptly.
TXGuy Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 He found someone else most likely. Even if he liked you and just thought you were cold and not interested, most guys are too dense to give up that abruptly. I disagree. Most guys will lose interest when their efforts are met with disinterest. OP- it is one thing to expect the man to do most ofthe chasing (calling, texting, asking out). But in that case, it is up to the woman to communicate interest (if it is there). You asked him out on a date once. You are allowed to express interest via phone and text as well. 2
Potz4prez Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Yeah, if I'm going on dates with multiple women, guess which one is going to get the ax first? The non-enthusiastic, disinterested one. It wasn't the splitting of the bill, it was the lack of flirting and enthusiasm. Just call him and let him know you're enthused. 2
HappyLove Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 That's strange, you're shy but you asked HIM out? Maybe he wasn't very interested from the get go, he just went out to be nice. I say you have nothing to lose by getting in touch with him. If you're going to continue to act the same way it's probably pointless.
jrh1524 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Playing games = being single. If you like him call him. 1
Achybreakyheart Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 If a guy wants you he will make it happen. Plain and simple.
jrh1524 Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 If a guy wants you he will make it happen. Plain and simple. I disagree. If someone is being cold to me I will move on. 2
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