windwarrior Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 So basically my ex and I broke up, but still kept on talking and hooking up. At the same time we were both also seeing other people. She pressed to get back together and after a week or 2 I agreed but she immediately changed her mind and left me for another guy. I pleaded for a bit, but then cut her off. Almost everyday since I cut her off she has texted/called me. I replied on the third day telling her that she chose another guy over me and we couldn't talk. I told her I wanted to move on for good. She insulted then but sent some random cute picture of us 20 minutes later. Clearly it's just a matter of time before she comes back. She's still seeing the other guy but she knows she will have to drop if she wants me to even talk to her. At what point should I start answering her texts/calls? Since she rejected me I want her to beg to have me back and actually want to end it with the other guy. My concern is that if I ignore her for too long she'll give up and continue her thing with the other guy. She has a tendency to only hook up with him when she knows I'm on a date/with another girl. So if she sees me moving on she'll only pursue the relationship with the other guy even further.
Author windwarrior Posted May 14, 2014 Author Posted May 14, 2014 Also, for some addiotional background. The relationship ended partly because I became insecure over that one same guy. I changed from a confident cocky guy to an insecure child who always worried about her. While we kept talking again I told her that if she hooked up with that best friend I would cut her off. She did, and I didn't do anything. She did it multiple times and I didn't flinch. That was my problem. I was insecure and she realized she could walk all over me. Now that I'm serious about cutting her off she's starting to come back. I do want her back because she was great while we dated, and the funnest person I know.
d0nnivain Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 NC is a took to help u heal & get over her. You are using it to play a game & to punish her, make her beg. If the problems which drove you apart are fixed, consider a reconciliation. But just because you think you have outgrown your insecurities doesn't mean you have especially if you both were with others during this break up. What you describe -- on & off, break up / make up, push pull would be too much drama for me. If you want to get back together arrange a face to face meeting, explain your expectations of the relationship & get back together. If you both can't do that, end it.
greenbee81 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Personally I could not tolerate that. However if you want her back, ignore her for a few days or weeks and let her know you will not tolerate her with another man. Then go NC.
saltyfishhead666 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 So basically my ex and I broke up, but still kept on talking and hooking up. At the same time we were both also seeing other people. She pressed to get back together and after a week or 2 I agreed but she immediately changed her mind and left me for another guy. I pleaded for a bit, but then cut her off. Almost everyday since I cut her off she has texted/called me. I replied on the third day telling her that she chose another guy over me and we couldn't talk. I told her I wanted to move on for good. She insulted then but sent some random cute picture of us 20 minutes later. Clearly it's just a matter of time before she comes back. She's still seeing the other guy but she knows she will have to drop if she wants me to even talk to her. At what point should I start answering her texts/calls? Since she rejected me I want her to beg to have me back and actually want to end it with the other guy. My concern is that if I ignore her for too long she'll give up and continue her thing with the other guy. She has a tendency to only hook up with him when she knows I'm on a date/with another girl. So if she sees me moving on she'll only pursue the relationship with the other guy even further. NEVER EVER EVER EVER ANSWER HER TEXTS OR CALLS Are you barking mad. You were both seeing someone else yet sleeping together (after you broke up) so you are both cheats. You say yeah I'll take you back and she runs off with another guy? Is your opinion of yourself that low that you'd want someone who chooses someone else over you? Change your bloody number and have it over with. She sounds like serious bad news and clearly "together" you are both bad news. Find a nice girl, and don't play around. Bad habits have a way of biting people in the ass 2
Simon Phoenix Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 No Contact means No Contact. It's a pretty simple concept -- if you go No Contact you don't answer anything. You move forward and you should move forward -- your relationship sounds awfully toxic dude.
flitzanu Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 So basically my ex and I broke up, but still kept on talking and hooking up. At the same time we were both also seeing other people. She pressed to get back together and after a week or 2 I agreed but she immediately changed her mind and left me for another guy. I pleaded for a bit, but then cut her off. Almost everyday since I cut her off she has texted/called me. I replied on the third day telling her that she chose another guy over me and we couldn't talk. I told her I wanted to move on for good. She insulted then but sent some random cute picture of us 20 minutes later. Clearly it's just a matter of time before she comes back. She's still seeing the other guy but she knows she will have to drop if she wants me to even talk to her. At what point should I start answering her texts/calls? Since she rejected me I want her to beg to have me back and actually want to end it with the other guy. My concern is that if I ignore her for too long she'll give up and continue her thing with the other guy. She has a tendency to only hook up with him when she knows I'm on a date/with another girl. So if she sees me moving on she'll only pursue the relationship with the other guy even further. so all the while, she's banging this new guy, and was banging him while banging you, and you are waiting around for her to get filled out like an application by other dudes before she comes back to you and "settles down" for a commitment?
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