74irishguy Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Ok the background. I have been dating this fun, beautiful, vibrant woman for a month and a half. She's a nursing student with three kids all under teen years. She also hold down a job to pay for their home bills her mom pays rent. She has been married three times I have been married once. We both divorced November last year. When we meet she was always outgoing and vibrant. Her mom did not want her to date because she was afraid it would interfere with school. I agree that school is important and during her final exams I told her it's important that she study so I let her study. During this time she got really stressed out about her final exams. She told me this was normal. I took her word on it. After all of her final exams are now over, she's still not communicating and has said the dreaded five words "we were moving too fast" and wanted a break. Like an idiot I agreed. I didn't beg or plead or even try to talk her out of it. I was firm but not angry when I told her no problem I understand. I then discover that on the day after we had that talk (a few days later) would have been her one year anniversary from her previous marriage. Since then I have broken off all communication text, email, phone calls. I am hoping that by me breaking off all communication she will start to miss those feelings I know she enjoyed. My plan is to stick with this for at least another week. Then if I don't hear back from her I'll reach out and see how she's doing. My question is this, is she really just upset about her failed marriage or is she roping me into the same boat with other men. I am falling for this woman and I don't want to lose her. But I don't want to push her away either.
d0nnivain Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 You are playing games. NC is not a way to get somebody back by making them miss you. It's a healing tool. This woman has been divorced three times and her mom pays her rent, you said? That tells me she is a poor prospect for a long term relationship. At 1.5 months you aren't in too deep especially if it's an LDR -- get out while you can. This woman has already told you that you are moving too fast. With 3 divorces under her belt I would hope by now she has some sense of what doesn't work for her. Take her at her word & move on.
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