SadNLonley Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I am on match and okc. I dont understand the whole like thing. Does it mean someone is interested in YOU if they like a photo of you? If I find them interesting I "like" a photo of them, but it seems they dont email or message me. Does it just mean they like the photo and thats it? Also, what is up with people who like or wink or favorite you when they have no pics up? I dont mean to be shallow, but I think it is important to see who you are speaking with. Also, why do the same guys keep looking at my profile but never contact me? If you keep looking there has to be some interest???? I just dont get it all and want to hear from those who understand what its all about. I feel like there should be a manual for OLD. Especially stating to expect a lot of NO RESPONSES and get winks from all sorts of people. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 When I did online dating years ago, I had the same experience. Girls would send me a wink. So I read their profiles, and the few that happened to say something more than "I love to laugh" and "I'll try anything once" I messaged, to no avail. Online dating is just like Facebook. It's a catalog of pictures, with some witty or trite comments, and people just hit the "Like" button. The only advice I can give you is when you reach your limit, get really frustrated, quit online dating and never look back.
d0nnivain Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 No one really understand OLD. IMHO, it's all BS until you meet in person. If they like or wink it may be that they aren't a paid member & can't message you or it may mean they fear rejection & want you to contact 1st. If you get a like or a wink & you click through to their profile & like what you see, reach out. Don't get hung up on propriety or gender roles. Just start a conversation that leads to a real life meet sooner rather than later. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Ah, the wacky world of OLD!!! D0nnivain is right in saying that no one really understands OLD! I have probably tried most of the more popular dating sites at one point or another over the years. Some were better than others and many were just plain pathetic. I have also experienced everything you outlined and more. I am continually amazed that people actually meet and make a match. Unfortunately, OLD can sometimes feel like a game. I think that if you want to make the most out of your experience, YOU need to be practice being more aggressive. Approach the ones you think you'd like to know better and see where it goes. Sitting back and waiting for the right guy to approach you isn't going to get you very far and will only leave you frustrated. You get out of it what you're willing to put into it even if all you find out is that it royally sucks There was a point near the end of my love affair with OLD where I felt like WTF and decided to email every one of those guys who either liked a pic of me or added me to their favorites etc. but made no attempt at communicating with me. I was polite and let them know that I noticed they had liked my profile (or whatever they were doing) and wondered WHY they didn't reach out to me? The results? Not one guy responded. LOL!!! I recently saw a BBC expose on how corrupt many OLD dating sites are. It interviewed employees who revealed that they are designed to tease you into thinking you're more popular than you probably are, especially if you haven't paid up for a membership. They dangle all these carrots in front of you including FREE memberships only to realize that you can't do anything unless you slap down your credit card. They even have a roster of FAKE profiles in their database that are used to continually peak your interest and force you to upgrade your memberships!! Disgusting. It really can be a lot of BS at the end of the day if you're not careful. Regardless, you're not alone, trust me. It's just the way OLD works. And as I've said countless time before on other threads dealing with OLD issues, the only way to survive online is to be smart, take everything with a grain of salt and have a sense of humor with you at all times. Because it can be very entertaining if you have the right attitude. Good luck!
sillyanswer Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I am on match and okc. I dont understand the whole like thing. Does it mean someone is interested in YOU if they like a photo of you? If I find them interesting I "like" a photo of them, but it seems they dont email or message me. Does it just mean they like the photo and thats it? Maybe they're shy, and "liking" a photo of you is their way of showing some sort of interest. Perhaps they hope you'll reciprocate somehow. Impossible to tell, really. Also, what is up with people who like or wink or favorite you when they have no pics up? I dont mean to be shallow, but I think it is important to see who you are speaking with. Same as above. (and I agree that people who expect dating sites to work for them should put up photos) Also, why do the same guys keep looking at my profile but never contact me? If you keep looking there has to be some interest???? Perhaps they like the thumbnail pic, but when they click through to your full profile they read something that's a dealbreaker for them... but they forget this and later see your thumbnail again and think "ooh. cute" and click through to see your profile and again find something they don't like. Or perhaps not. Impossible to say really. I just dont get it all and want to hear from those who understand what its all about. I feel like there should be a manual for OLD. Especially stating to expect a lot of NO RESPONSES and get winks from all sorts of people. There's a huge consolidated thread in the Dating section about online dating. It's over 100 pages long. I'll be surprised if there's much advice missing from it, so consider that your manual. Happy reading!
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