RyanMA Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Been seeing this girl for 2 months now. She has only been with 1 guy in her life so shes taking things slow. A little slower than i want but i've been playing it cool. We "almost" had sex a couple times as when we start it, a couple minutes in she gets scared and we stop. It's actually kinda cute. Regardless, last night i told her we need to elevate things a bit more because after our last attempts at sex things started middling again. The big thing is the convo started off great but i got prettaaaay drunk and i started spiraling the convo out of control. This morning she texts me early to say i was a huge dick and "thats why i dont express myself or share" and i apologized saying i hope i didnt push you away as soon as i get you to open up a little i do something like that. She then said it was ok and i didnt push her away and she will be over tonight after work to hang out and have a "last night text reading party" lol so i can see my shame. She still on board? You think i may have pushed her a way but she wont say it?
ayala Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Weeeell you might have scared her a little. But she was open about how she felt and still wants to hang out right after so I'd say it's fine. Don't pressure her, or you WILL push her away. Let her take things at her own pace. You can always gently nudge her in the right direction but let it come from her. Make sure she's comfortable and ready. She might have had a past traumatic experience she's not ready to tell you about. Never really know since it's only been 2 months. Good luck!
mirage12 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Been seeing this girl for 2 months now. She has only been with 1 guy in her life so shes taking things slow. A little slower than i want but i've been playing it cool. We "almost" had sex a couple times as when we start it, a couple minutes in she gets scared and we stop. It's actually kinda cute. Regardless, last night i told her we need to elevate things a bit more because after our last attempts at sex things started middling again. The big thing is the convo started off great but i got prettaaaay drunk and i started spiraling the convo out of control. This morning she texts me early to say i was a huge dick and "thats why i dont express myself or share" and i apologized saying i hope i didnt push you away as soon as i get you to open up a little i do something like that. She then said it was ok and i didnt push her away and she will be over tonight after work to hang out and have a "last night text reading party" lol so i can see my shame. She still on board? You think i may have pushed her a way but she wont say it? She's coming over tonight so obviously you didn't push her away that much... I'm in a similar situation now with a girl I've been seeing for a month, and I've been another girl's "second" once before in the past. In my past experience, the girl treated me as the second person she was ever with almost as importantly as the first person she was with. Because she'd only been with one person before, it meant a lot to her to have sex with someone else...ANYONE else. Keep it slow, and don't try to pressure her. She wants it to happen and when she's ready, she'll let you know. If you really like her, you'll lay off pressuring her. If you can't wait any longer for sex, move on to another girl.
Assasda Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Yeah, She's still onboard. Sounds good, that she's comfortable to show you what you did. Dont apologize too much, play it slick
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