alwayswithlight Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Quick overview: My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. Mostly things are good, but we have a few significant issues in regards to religion, politics, and poor communication. As a result of those we took a brief break a couple months ago (his idea), and since then I have been feeling really insecure. We don't get to see each other too often (at least once a week, but rarely more) because he works a lot and we live over an hour apart. So here's the issue: The last two weekends, when he was supposed to have stayed at my place, late in the evening he says he decided to go home. The first time it was because I had to get up early in the morning and he "thought it would be better for him not to sleep over", even though I said I wanted him to stay. The second time it was because he said he needed to get some work done the next morning and he wanted to get an early start. I convinced him to stay the second time, but I felt like he should have wanted to stay. Not to mention, in the end he did not end up going into work at all -- so it couldn't have been that important right? Am I crazy to think that these are signs that our relationship is ending?
ayala Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Sounds like you need to bring it up with him. You need to talk to him. You said you had an issue with communication, start by opening up to him. At least let him know what you're worried about and understand he needs his space just as you need yours. It's okay to argue so long as you make up and smooth the issue over with a compromise or knowing what the real problem was due to a misunderstanding. Keep yourself busy with things you like. If he pulls away more, then maybe it's a sign the relationship is ending. Something needs to be done for something to happen. If he's interested in what you've been doing, then it's a good sign, I think. You'll only know if you both open up and communicate!
ExpatInItaly Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I don't think you're over-reacting. I would be concerned too. However, I don't necessarily think it means the relationship is ending. Sometimes it's hard to find your footing and comfort zone again after a break. He may be cautious to jump back in with both feet, as it was rocky before. I would talk to him and ask him where his feelings are. He might simply need more time to ease back into the couple you used to be.
Assasda Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 The first time he went home it was because of something you did or said, I guarantee it. It made him mad and he did not want to spend the night with you. Sounds like youre hiding other things that you guys may have disagreements about.
Yookie Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 It sounds like your boyfriend has already checked out of the relationship. He's just waiting for you to get on board.
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