rov Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Hi, Yesterday I added a girl on Facebook that went to school with my cousin. I just started chatting with her and in the afternoon I told her that I hoped someday we would meet for a coffee and she answered: Lets go today!!, so I went to pick her up to her house and we spent three hours and had a good time. After the date I sent her a text message telling her that i had a great time and would like to see her soon again and she answered: I had a lot of fun with you today, thanks for hearing me and my crazy ideas haha. Is this a good signal?. How much time should I wait to date her again??. The bad thing is that she broke up with her boyfriend of four years three weeks ago
Frank2thepoint Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Her breakup happening only recently could really mean she is looking for a friend. I'm not sure what you guys talked about during the three hour date, but ask her out again, maybe for the weekend, and ask if she is looking to date again. Most likely not, but you never know unless you try.
PegNosePete Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 There are no "rules" for this kind of thing. Just do what you feel like. Breaking up with a BF of 4 years 3 weeks ago sounds like a bad sign though. That length of relationship takes a while to get over. You may be a rebound.
Assasda Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Just find something that you think is fun and invite her out to it. Dont send her a bunch of "How are you?" Texts. Text her to set up dates and ask crucial questions
Author rov Posted May 14, 2014 Author Posted May 14, 2014 I texted her on whatsapp and said Hi, how is your day going?. she didn't replied and she entered whatsapp many times. Then I waited two hours and asked her if she would like to go for some dinner on the weekend, she also didn't replied. So I think Id better move on and forget her. what do you think?, what I don't understand is why yesterday she looked like she had a good time and then in when I sent her the text that I had a good time she said that she had a lot of fun. Im confused :S
hasaquestion Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I texted her on whatsapp and said Hi, how is your day going?. she didn't replied and she entered whatsapp many times. Then I waited two hours and asked her if she would like to go for some dinner on the weekend, she also didn't replied. So I think Id better move on and forget her. what do you think?, what I don't understand is why yesterday she looked like she had a good time and then in when I sent her the text that I had a good time she said that she had a lot of fun. Im confused :S First of all, she might not have been into you to begin with. Was she talking about her breakup or her ex when you met up? Was she complaining a lot? That's friend talk. Women generally don't complain unless you're A) a friend or B) they've already bagged you as their boyfriend. If they're worried about making an impression and being an option for you, they'll hush about the ex so it doesn't turn you off. Second of all, next time you should suggest the second date along with the thank you text. If women are interested they'll say yes, if they aren't they'll say no. But if they're on the fence, being proactive about it is a much better strategy than leaving things flimsy and sending a wimpy looking "how are you doing?" text the next day. Don't text women "how are you?" if you're trying to date them. Its annoying. Make your communication count. 1
Assasda Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 I see you ddint listen to my post. How about you pay attention to Hasaquestion's post
d0nnivain Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 Your 1st mistake was not paying attention to the fact that she just broke up with her BF. You were most likely a distraction . . . not even a rebound. She was looking for external validation that she was still desirable. Your second mistake was relying on technology. FB, whatsapp & texts are among the world's worst ways to communicate. If you like somebody you should want to hear their voice not hide behind technology which only serves to distance yourself from other people. Third you were over eager which translates to needy / clingy & is unattractive. You sent the had a good time text pretty quickly. . . .OK fine that was polite. You only waited 2 hours between the how was your day & the ask for a date. Really that is not enough time to let her catch her breath & digest what she wants to do. Your choice to do it via an app was also bad. At this point do nothing. If she responds great. If not her silence is the answer. Next time try using a phone to set up a 2nd date & wait at least 24 hours between each communication if you aren't getting a response before you send another one. 2
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