Is there any chance?

[katush94]

Hello to all of you, I would like to tell you my story. If you were be able to give me some advice, I'd really appreciate that.

it all started 9 months ago. Today actually it's been 9 months I've had a boyfriend. We met at work and yes...he's 32. For the first 6 months our relationship was really really nice. He really loved me and I loved him, we planned future together and we got over my parents or the fact we couldn't meet whenever we wanted to. But then I started to feel a bit uncomfortable, you know, my first relationship and so on, I felt he loved me much more than I loved him, that was a reason to many of our fights...and he was still patient with me, he told me I am the love of his life, that he had never felt so good with anyone else...but I still kept being like that.

He has a friend (a girl) which wanted him for a long time. He always said 'no' to her, because he loved me and I was his girlfriend who he wanted to stay with till the end of his life. But after some time he already started to feel tired of my moods, when I either argued or didnt talk to him, therefore he started to fall for her, because at that time, when he needed to hear some nice words from me, they did not come, just because I was stupid and immature (but I loved him, I have no idea why I acted like that) but of course they came from her side. And when he was already desperate about my behaviour, he told me that I am not the only girl in the world and that maybe he would feel better with someone else. But please don't think he's a prick, he really tried so hard to help me and to make things alright, it was just my fault that I kept acting like that...

so yea, that's when I read some of his messages on fb, where he talked with a person and told the person that he was not happy with me anymore and that he's thinking about breaking up with me and being with that another girl. Of course I told him and from that time on, he said something had broken inside of him and that he can't love me the way he did before. So it's been pretty ****** since then. One day he even told me that it would be better to break up with me, we both cried but decided on one more chance, to give ourselves some time to figure things out. Since then, we met several times and it was really great, we had great time shopping, having dinner, going for a walk or watching a movie together. He also told me that I am the most beautiful thing that had ever met him, that he had never felt so good with anybody else. But he still can't get back to that 'loving time'. He told me he feels something really deep for me, but after all I've done it's just...complicated. Either way, I really try so hard, I stopped arguing with him, I also started to ride the bike, because it's like the most important thing in his life, I am willing to get along well with his friends as I did not before...he appreciates it, but keeps telling me that when he wanted all that, I didn't do that, and that's why he still feels hurt and so on...so we're still taking the time to find out...do you think the time will help and make him love me again? Or will he finally accept all the things I want do to for him, like I did not do them before but now I do?

[FredJones80]

Hello to all of you, I would like to tell you my story. If you were be able to give me some advice, I'd really appreciate that.

it all started 9 months ago. Today actually it's been 9 months I've had a boyfriend. We met at work and yes...he's 32. For the first 6 months our relationship was really really nice. He really loved me and I loved him, we planned future together and we got over my parents or the fact we couldn't meet whenever we wanted to. But then I started to feel a bit uncomfortable, you know, my first relationship and so on, I felt he loved me much more than I loved him, that was a reason to many of our fights...and he was still patient with me, he told me I am the love of his life, that he had never felt so good with anyone else...but I still kept being like that.

He has a friend (a girl) which wanted him for a long time. He always said 'no' to her, because he loved me and I was his girlfriend who he wanted to stay with till the end of his life. But after some time he already started to feel tired of my moods, when I either argued or didnt talk to him, therefore he started to fall for her, because at that time, when he needed to hear some nice words from me, they did not come, just because I was stupid and immature (but I loved him, I have no idea why I acted like that) but of course they came from her side. And when he was already desperate about my behaviour, he told me that I am not the only girl in the world and that maybe he would feel better with someone else. But please don't think he's a prick, he really tried so hard to help me and to make things alright, it was just my fault that I kept acting like that...

so yea, that's when I read some of his messages on fb, where he talked with a person and told the person that he was not happy with me anymore and that he's thinking about breaking up with me and being with that another girl. Of course I told him and from that time on, he said something had broken inside of him and that he can't love me the way he did before. So it's been pretty ****** since then. One day he even told me that it would be better to break up with me, we both cried but decided on one more chance, to give ourselves some time to figure things out. Since then, we met several times and it was really great, we had great time shopping, having dinner, going for a walk or watching a movie together. He also told me that I am the most beautiful thing that had ever met him, that he had never felt so good with anybody else. But he still can't get back to that 'loving time'. He told me he feels something really deep for me, but after all I've done it's just...complicated. Either way, I really try so hard, I stopped arguing with him, I also started to ride the bike, because it's like the most important thing in his life, I am willing to get along well with his friends as I did not before...he appreciates it, but keeps telling me that when he wanted all that, I didn't do that, and that's why he still feels hurt and so on...so we're still taking the time to find out...do you think the time will help and make him love me again? Or will he finally accept all the things I want do to for him, like I did not do them before but now I do?

 

I take it you're 20 and he is 32. There may lie your answer.