Hotdam43 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 My ex and I have been broke up for 8 months now. I moved to his home in NY and was there for 18 months but would go back to FL every 3 or 4 months to see my family which he knew up front and was fine with. He had custody of his 4 year old grandson because his daughter was constantly on drugs and not doing the right thing so when episodes of this would happen my ex would withdraw, sleep all the time, not want to talk about it,shut me out, I felt so un loved all alone so many times but I tried to be supportive of his situation I even tried talking to his daughter many times but that did not work. He told me many times he loved me and wanted to marry me but never really showed it and I am a firm believer actions speak louder than words. The first 6 months into the relationship I caught him on dating sites and when confronted the first time he told me it was just to pass the time at work and he would never do it again.. Really? 2 weeks later I caught him a second time and that did it for me, I left and went back to FL for a few days I was crushed. He blew up my cell phone with texts begging me to come back, calls, messages but I ignored them. When I finally spoke to him he told me he did not realize how much in love with me he was and that he took advantage of the fact that he thought I would never leave him. I went back told him the trust will have to be rebuilt, well after a month I had personal family matters to take care of with my own children in FL and he lost it, he was crying, telling me not to go, that I am choosing my family over him.etc... What!! I was so supportive of his situation..We stayed in contact for 4 months then after a fight he sends me a text told me he loves me but not enough to get back together:(. I lost it, I tried so hard to salvage the relationship,the end result is he still has all of my stuff I Have been trying to get back since October and in the beginning he was ok with me getting my stuff telling me take all the time you need and when I was able to go 2 different times he would give me excuses,I have been communicating with him once a week about my stuff and he is still giving me nothing but excuses about getting my things. I will end up going with a cop or handle that legally which is not what I want to do but, My question is I still love this guy more than anything, don't ask why I just do should I just not contact him at all and if so how long? The problem here is He has everything I moved from FL at his home that I will not give up too many personal items, memories of my children, photos you get the idea. Why is this guy doing this? if he doesnt want me in his life you would think he would let me just get my stuff and be done with it... Thoughts!!!
learning_slowly Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 If he wants a split & then is not giving your things back, then he sucks. I can't imagine cops etc would be bothered unless its of value. Even then you need to prove you didn't give them to him as a gift. I would send a recorded letter asking politely for your things back. At least this would start a record that you could use in court. But I would assume that you may not get it back and count your blessings, that you got out when you did. Anyway surely lifes better in florida?
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