greenbee81 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 One of my high school friends was a good looking guy. He had girls coming up and asking for numbers dates ONS all the time. But he is always smiling and making lots of eye contact. I thinks it's a combo of good physical attributes and confidence. I have had a few random girls approach me, but usually not my types.
ZipperZapper Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 For what it's worth, I also find myself being approached by women only on extremely rare occasions, and it's not necessarily because they think I'm attractive. Sometimes it's because they're looking for directions. Mind you, while I was walking around in a farmer's market a few days ago I found myself briefly getting scoped out by a woman who might have been my age, maybe a little older, who was pushing a wheel chair (maybe she was a hired caregiver). She seemed to have a slight smile on her face when she looked at me. Then her eyes locked on to mine for a very brief moment, and then she averted them. Couldn't tell if she averted them because she was interested and afraid of getting caught... or she was thinking, Ew, what a goofy-looking guy... and afraid of getting caught. I'll never know, because I was in a hurry to get back to my desk at work, and she was headed off in the opposite direction. Women rarely scope me out... if they do, they must be doing it so carefully that I'm not aware of it.
ZipperZapper Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 ...and that, Dude, is why women complain that the guys who hit on them are jerks. But even in light of that dire fact, nobody should expect women to do a complete 180 in terms of their behavior... women pursuing men would be a bit like the flowers buzzing after the bees, no? To me, it's just... :lmao: Yep. This is how I think it works... if the guy is good-looking, he won't be seen as a creep if he hits on a woman. But if the guy is ugly, he will be treated as a creep and hitting on a woman will be seen as some sort of horrible crime. Women do not seem to realize that being approached by unattractive men is the price they have to pay for having the luxury of not having to do much work to initiate relationships, and to be able to just sit back and wait. It's just like the price men have to pay for their interactions with women is to be rejected a lot. I'm certainly not expecting women to do a 180 in their behaviour either, but if they really believe in equality (and not just when it favours them) then they need to start asking men out more, or at least being a whole lot more approachable instead of throwing up their bitch shields and treating men so badly when they do approach. Women like to be treated with kindness, why can't they extend the same to men?? Why is it so damned difficult for them to simply say, "Thank you for the offer, but I'm not interested"?
Disillusioned Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Yep. This is how I think it works... if the guy is good-looking, he won't be seen as a creep if he hits on a woman. But if the guy is ugly, he will be treated as a creep and hitting on a woman will be seen as some sort of horrible crime. Women do not seem to realize that being approached by unattractive men is the price they have to pay for having the luxury of not having to do much work to initiate relationships, and to be able to just sit back and wait. It's just like the price men have to pay for their interactions with women is to be rejected a lot. I'm certainly not expecting women to do a 180 in their behaviour either, but if they really believe in equality (and not just when it favours them) then they need to start asking men out more, or at least being a whole lot more approachable instead of throwing up their bitch shields and treating men so badly when they do approach. Women like to be treated with kindness, why can't they extend the same to men?? Why is it so damned difficult for them to simply say, "Thank you for the offer, but I'm not interested"? Well, ya never know... once enough women figure out that effort = results, a few more of them will become like the flowers buzzing after the bees. Being openly asexual, I can only speak for myself... but since I started a new meetup group aimed primarily at singles who are celibate, asexual, childfree, etc etc on the 21st of this month, only about half a dozen people have joined---ALL of them women. A great problem to have? It's still too early to tell, but hey, I've got my own evidence now. The love dynamics are very different in the asexual/celibate world. The women not only outnumber the men, but they're more aggressive as well.
thefooloftheyear Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 I like Dominant men so I just don't approach. If you think someone is cute just say hello! Id consider myself a "dominant" type, but I never "cold" approached a woman in entire life..*shrug* TFY
KaliLove Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 And why are men not supposed to hate women because they expect men to approach and ask them out first? You can hate women all you want..it's not going to help you get one.
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