johnson_j Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Girl with whom I was in an exclusive relationship (now ended) turns out was married the entire time. She had gotten married a couple months prior to us starting to date, and for the whole relationship 8+ months had never revealed this piece of information. One of her friends let it slip she was having marital problems and then I was able to confirm via other sources. I've been to her house many times and I know the guy wasn't living there - but I know they were talking and his presence was causing us problems which lead to the break up. So I casually asked her while we were discussing other things and she flew off the handle at me, accused me of being a stalking idiot and saying it is not my business and I have no right to know. Anyone else been in this situation?
Assasda Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 hahahaha lol@you have no right to know. Naa man... Its weird that you found out after 8 months. Thats a long time
Frank2thepoint Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 So I casually asked her while we were discussing other things and she flew off the handle at me, accused me of being a stalking idiot and saying it is not my business and I have no right to know. I have not been in a situation as you, but I can tell you that once someone flies off the handle, gets belligerently defensive, they are really upset at themselves for getting caught. I'm sorry that you suffered through an eight month lie, but be glad it's over. Just don't become jaded and suspect every woman you meet is lying. This was an isolated case, with one person, not an entire gender. Take what you learned and add another notch on your experiences belt.
luvshaq Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 It's a red flag for someone to get so defensive over a simple question. What are they trying to hide?
Author johnson_j Posted May 14, 2014 Author Posted May 14, 2014 Nah, I'm not jaded about the experience I just feel that she should have informed me either in the beginning or when we were close and talking about previous relationships and such. To hide something as critical as a marriage (whether it was in a courthouse or not) is just unforgivable. And then to try to blame me for finding out is worse.
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