steelgator Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 She broke up with me 2 days ago I told her this would be the last time we talk and that if there is any chance we can salvage the relationship to tell me but I couldn't do it alone. She didn't respond to me so I just said ok NC it is!! Today (after 2 days of her thinking I guess) she texts me: "(my name) I can't do this". I didn't respond, didn't question her, didn't beg, plead, didn't even say Ok bye. It was hard and I started to choke up bought fought back the tears by coughing and trying to pop my eyes out of my head (it's a weird thing that helps me). but an hour later I was starting to feel happy and I feel pretty normal now, I actually was thinking about the sports they were talking about on ESPN.
elseaacych Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Wow. I think you two are a little close to the breakup. Given I don't know circumstances surrounding the relationship (was it sudden? Were you guys long term?) My only thoughts are, does she really mean it? If you want to reconcile, tell her you need a little time to think about it, and tell her you two should wait until the end of the week to talk about where you both really stand and you both have slightly cooler heads. Don't wait too long, though. The more time that passes, the more permanent your break up is.
Author steelgator Posted May 13, 2014 Author Posted May 13, 2014 elseeaaych, We were long distance it lasted 14 months. first 2 months close and 12 months long distance as she was going to law school. The last month and a half she was so stressed with finals and she said she felt she was dragging me along because she couldn't devote the time to me like i did to her but we remained in limited contact until there was a break in contact i figured she would get it out the way and then we'd pick back up. Well when she gets back home to her family for summer she ends it saying "you're a perfect and amazing guy but not right for me" and that "she needs to mature and grow" and that "there was alot of uncertainty while being serious at the same time" that bothered her.
elseaacych Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 (edited) Aw f*-k. Law school and an LDR. Get the hell away from that. You gotta both be really committed if you want either of those, let alone both, and since you were only close proximity wise for a short time, I'd think that weighs kind of against you. If you weren't making long term plans to go out and be with her, just let it be, because if you two go back to where you were before (which is what you will essentially be doing since neither of you have really been completely "out of it" so to say), you will be dealing with two more years of law school + bar exam. (It doesn't get any better, as far as I know. And the bar exam is like having three months re-learning all of the material you learned in law school and then some, and then taking a two day long test from hell. Stressful, to say the least.) I'd say it's a little late to do it now because the damage has already been done, but maybe if you both wanted it... Still, instinct says no. Shut it down. Edited May 13, 2014 by elseaacych
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