irresolute Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I was texting to this guy. We were arguing and he almost made me cry. He said: i have stuff to do. Talk soon. And i said "ok" and stop messaging even though we still have to talk. Then, 2 hours later he texted me "hold on...soon" like if he was talking to another person. My question is: what's the probability you mess with texts. Send something to a person intended for another. I mean, not on purpose. Any experiences with this??? This is the second time he "messes" texts and every time he does this it infers he's talking to other girl. Never happened to me personally. Id like to hear any experiences. Thank you.
Zahara Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I'm notorious for doing it. When I was in a relationship, instead of sending my bf a text, I'll send it to my mom and sometimes a text meant for my gf I'll send it to my ex. It always happened if I was simultaneously talking to those few people at the same time. With iPhone, depending on who was the last text window, I'd just open type quickly hit send and not realize I'm sending it to wrong person.
saltyfishhead666 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I was texting to this guy. We were arguing and he almost made me cry. He said: i have stuff to do. Talk soon. And i said "ok" and stop messaging even though we still have to talk. Then, 2 hours later he texted me "hold on...soon" like if he was talking to another person. My question is: what's the probability you mess with texts. Send something to a person intended for another. I mean, not on purpose. Any experiences with this??? This is the second time he "messes" texts and every time he does this it infers he's talking to other girl. Never happened to me personally. Id like to hear any experiences. Thank you. I have done it a few times, either mixing names up or on the iphone when you close messages it leaves the last text open so when you reopen messages it's there. I have added an extra recipient many a time and text them both accidentally. It does happen, although it's random. Out of curiosity were they both after fights?
Survivor12 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 How do you come to the conclusion that "hold on...soon" means he's talking to another girl? In fact, it sounds like he was actually talking to you since the last thing he said after tellin you that he had stuff to do was "Talk soon". (By any chance was the argument about you accusing him of something that he was denying?)
todreaminblue Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 i have done this once and my kids often use my phone and i often receive texts and i go hmmmmmmm........"this text is not for me.....but thanks for sending me info on what she wont be doing and where she wont be going ...she is grounded now ta......from her mum"..... is a stock standard response....haven't had anyone send me a text that was not for me other than above.......deb
Author irresolute Posted May 13, 2014 Author Posted May 13, 2014 Because I said "ok" and the conversation was finished. Why would he repeat it over again. For me it seems he was talking to another person that was asking him something, maybe when they were meeting and he replied hold on...soon by mistake to me.... I can't find another explanation. This is the second time he messes with texts actually. Maybe he's doing on purpose? How come? I've never texted the wrong person before. Ever!
ExpatInItaly Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Because I said "ok" and the conversation was finished. Why would he repeat it over again. For me it seems he was talking to another person that was asking him something, maybe when they were meeting and he replied hold on...soon by mistake to me.... I can't find another explanation. This is the second time he messes with texts actually. Maybe he's doing on purpose? How come? I've never texted the wrong person before. Ever! You're really over-thinking this. Just because you have never texted the wrong person doesn't mean others (including me!) haven't. It happens. You also have really no evidence to assume he's talking to another girl. That's a bit of stretch, based on that text alone. You need to calm yourself. EDIT: Is this the same guy you assumed blocked you? (from your other thread, I mean) If so, do you not see a pattern of behaviour in yourself too? You get really agitated and if it's obvious to a bunch of people on the internet, I promise it's evident to him, as well. 1
Author irresolute Posted May 13, 2014 Author Posted May 13, 2014 Well he's playing this silly games with me and this is the second time he texted me wrongly and wow coincidence it's always some stupid text inferring he's texting other girls. So yeah I'm paranoid. He could be more careful at least... i was almost crying and now he texted the wrong perdon? I mean how come???
MissBee Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Well he's playing this silly games with me and this is the second time he texted me wrongly and wow coincidence it's always some stupid text inferring he's texting other girls. So yeah I'm paranoid. He could be more careful at least... i was almost crying and now he texted the wrong perdon? I mean how come??? Maybe your problems will be solved if you simply leave this guy alone? You don't really have a relationship and it seems half the time you're crying, confused, paranoid or fighting with him. Just stop.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Well he's playing this silly games with me and this is the second time he texted me wrongly and wow coincidence it's always some stupid text inferring he's texting other girls. So yeah I'm paranoid. He could be more careful at least... i was almost crying and now he texted the wrong perdon? I mean how come??? Because he is a human and humans make mistakes? I realize you're already on shaky ground with this guy but....you really need to get a handle on yourself. I mean no offense to you, but your reaction is a tad over-the-top. His previous text does not in any way imply he's going to meet another girl. That is your conclusion because it's what you fear. I think the underlying problem is that you're allowing yourself to believe your fears. You mentioned in your last thread that you're not serious with this guy and that he's not really all that interested. I believe you also stated he's 45. If you don't mind me asking, how old are you, OP?
Author irresolute Posted May 13, 2014 Author Posted May 13, 2014 I'm 40. We are both wounded people. We both have a history of abuse. We both are commitment phobes. He likes to play and for that reason I assumed he was doing this on purpose.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I'm 40. We are both wounded people. We both have a history of abuse. We both are commitment phobes. He likes to play and for that reason I assumed he was doing this on purpose. I must admit..you do not sound 40. At all. Again, I don't mean to be harsh but the level of insecurity and neediness coming across in your post is alarming. I am sorry to hear of your abusive past. I have been there too; it causes a lot of deep damage. However, you yourself confess this is a man who isn't serious about you. You openly state that he likes to play games and flake on you. Only you can decided when enough is enough, but I don't think this relationship (and I use that word loosely here) is going anywhere.
Mrin Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I do it unfortunately too often and sometimes to disasterous results!
Notsure_9 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I am the worst about doing this! Usually if I'm talking to multiple people at once I'll send the 1st person something meant for the second and so on...I do this a lot I should pay more attention!
Scorpio Chick Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I had this guy a few years back...he would always initiate texting me, I did really like him but personally, I don't like initiating things with men. Anyway, it was obvious to me that on 3 different occasions he would 'accidentally' send me a text. I texted him back, 'I think you have the wrong person'. And he would text back something like, 'oh, sorry, oops. How ya doin?' He would want to start chatting. It was kind of cute in a way, because it was kind of painfully obvious. Not saying that's what's going on with your situation, you would have a pretty good read on if that's what he's doing to sort of 'keep you in line', you know, make you worried. But it's hard for any of us to say with any accuracy.
FitChick Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Tell him not to send texts but phone if he wants to talk to you. Then you do the same.
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