EgoJoe Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Hope can be as poisonous as the despair an expectation unmet can yield. Let go. There is so much advice to be had but there comes a time when the advice or the pursuit of betterment, strategy etc. becomes the way to hold on to the last vestiges of attachment. Let go. It does get better. 6
Natsume21 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 This post was depressing. Contains truth, but depressing. Hope for a better tomorrow is what keeps people alive. I think what you mean to say is "There are times when winning the war means putting down the sword, so choose your battles wisely." 2
Brutus Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 A movie that taught me a lot about my breakup. Regina Spektor - Hero (Expectations vs. Reality) on Vimeo 2
FredJones80 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 A movie that taught me a lot about my breakup. Regina Spektor - Hero (Expectations vs. Reality) on Vimeo Enjoyed that, thank you
Discover Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 As sad as it may sound, I completely agree with EgoJoe ... 5months passed, today or I don't know..these days The thing that enabled me to rediscover myself and become even stronger was letting go of Hope. Because, exactly hope was the feeling, creating that black hole in my heart. We should not rely on Hope, but rather on Belief for better days.
Brutus Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Brutus: That was a great video, I dont get the point or I maybe expect happy end. No, no happy end. It comes from the movie 500 days of Summer, which is a love story with no happy end. Pretty much like many others around here. Surely like mine. I posted it because it clearly shows how expectations and reality about a possible reconciliation with someone we love often diverge, and this hurts us. 2
jbelle6 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 A movie that taught me a lot about my breakup. Regina Spektor - Hero (Expectations vs. Reality) on Vimeo <3 Regina Spektor
Author EgoJoe Posted May 13, 2014 Author Posted May 13, 2014 This post was depressing. Contains truth, but depressing. Hope for a better tomorrow is what keeps people alive. I think what you mean to say is "There are times when winning the war means putting down the sword, so choose your battles wisely." No, I meant exactly what I said. It is not a battle. There is no enemy. You just have to let go of the pain, the attachment and the perceived loss. The loss is perceived because you already had the connection and since it was something that required upkeep and existed actively, you did not lose it; you merely no longer have it. If we let go and turn our focus inward, great things can and will happen. Letting go is only depressing when you're still holding on to hope. That very hope is the cause of your depression because while we label it in a noble manner it is actually a self-destructive stubbornness that is at it's root your lack of desire to change. If you had it all figured out and everything was perfect, there would be no mess to clean up.
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