jay1983 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I met this girl in the pits, not the last one I talked about, this one was about 5 weeks ago. I was browsing and noticed she had a peacock tattoo like I have. Shot a message about it, exchanged tattoo pics and started talking. Come to find out she went to the same high school as me and she sister was the friend of a girlfriend I had my HS freshman year. Exchanged numbers, talked a lot about mutual friends, high school and what we've been up to since, really good conversations, we worked in the same industry, yada yada yada. So I asked her out and she said she'd love to. The day before I text her to make sure we were still on, and never got a reply, I said of well (Not the first time this has happened, I'm kind of num to it) didn't even bother with another text or call. A few days later she deleted her profile. Just a minute ago out of the blue she text me "hey how u been" I haven't replied. Flaking for no reason is one of the things that really bothers me when meeting women. This is the first time a flaker has contacted me back so I'm not sure what's the best way to deal with this. Should I go NC, should ask what happened or does anybody think I give her another shot? I'm leaning toward not giving her another chance but if you all really think I should, I can swallow my pride. 1
Atticus9292012 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I wouldn't respond. Sounds like she is bored. No fish are biting where she is so she is trying to fish somewhere familiar is my guess. 2
bluegreen Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 If something was wrong and she was decent person she would have text-ed back and apologized said sorry at least. So I'll go with what others said something turned her off enough or she got better offer that fell trough now you can serve until .... Ultimately decision is yours Jay PS: Change that avatar hon its creeps me out pretty please : ) 1
Sith Apprentice Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I'd ignore her as well and give her a taste of her own medicine. 1
Author jay1983 Posted May 13, 2014 Author Posted May 13, 2014 Just saw her on facebook. Apparently we have a mutual friend, a girl I went out with a couple of times early last year.
luvshaq Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Don't respond. She might be contacting whenever she's drunk or in the mood. When the mood changes, she flakes. 1
hoping2heal Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I think your instincts to ignore are dead on. She's very inconsiderate and it would most likely end up being a recurring problem in the future. 2
Valen Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I would reply with "Who is this?" then if she says who she is, then I'll be like "Oh the one who flake and never txt me back. So why are you calling me now?" After she gives her reasons or excuses, then stop replying, just ignore and enjoy her waiting for a response from you. 3
David87 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Ignore her, who knows why she contacted you after a month.
martaldn Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Come on guys honestly? U don't know what happened to her in the last month she might has good reasons to act that way? U will never know if u give the situation another go and at the of the day she didn't leave u on an aisle she just didn't respond to a text message to someone who is still a stranger . U like her? Reply to her and u will probably find out why she flaked Good luck 2
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 She may have been seeing someone else and felt it wrong to see you whilst that was happening. She should have replied to you out of courtesy but I dont think you should write her off just yet x 1
saltyfishhead666 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I met this girl in the pits, not the last one I talked about, this one was about 5 weeks ago. I was browsing and noticed she had a peacock tattoo like I have. Shot a message about it, exchanged tattoo pics and started talking. Come to find out she went to the same high school as me and she sister was the friend of a girlfriend I had my HS freshman year. Exchanged numbers, talked a lot about mutual friends, high school and what we've been up to since, really good conversations, we worked in the same industry, yada yada yada. So I asked her out and she said she'd love to. The day before I text her to make sure we were still on, and never got a reply, I said of well (Not the first time this has happened, I'm kind of num to it) didn't even bother with another text or call. A few days later she deleted her profile. Just a minute ago out of the blue she text me "hey how u been" I haven't replied. Flaking for no reason is one of the things that really bothers me when meeting women. This is the first time a flaker has contacted me back so I'm not sure what's the best way to deal with this. Should I go NC, should ask what happened or does anybody think I give her another shot? I'm leaning toward not giving her another chance but if you all really think I should, I can swallow my pride. Wouldn't respond either. That's plain ignorance you can do much better. 1
saltyfishhead666 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I would reply with "Who is this?" then if she says who she is, then I'll be like "Oh the one who flake and never txt me back. So why are you calling me now?" After she gives her reasons or excuses, then stop replying, just ignore and enjoy her waiting for a response from you. :lmao: I love the who is this line. The responses are usually amusing!
Chocolat Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 So I asked her out and she said she'd love to. The day before I text her to make sure we were still on, and never got a reply, I said of well (Not the first time this has happened, I'm kind of num to it) didn't even bother with another text or call. A few days later she deleted her profile. Devil's advocate here. Is it possible she never received your text and thinks you flaked on her?
Zahara Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I wouldn't respond either. Just rude on her part. I bet she met another guy, deleted her profile and things fell apart -- so now she's revisiting you. Hey, how have you been? At least apologize for falling off the radar. I don't understand people that pretend like nothing ever happened when clearly she knows what she did. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Devil's advocate here. Is it possible she never received your text and thinks you flaked on her? I was thinking this as well. But if she sent you a text, it means she received it but flaked. Valen's idea of acting dumb and throwing it in her face is funny, but passive-aggressive. If you are curious enough, more so than frustrated, message her back and try again. Otherwise just ignore her and move on. 1
slizl Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I would reply with "Who is this?" then if she says who she is, then I'll be like "Oh the one who flake and never txt me back. So why are you calling me now?" After she gives her reasons or excuses, then stop replying, just ignore and enjoy her waiting for a response from you. "Who is this?" is perfect. If you are going to respond after that, the only thing you should say before radio silence is, "doesn't ring a bell." 3
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Lol she didnt reply to a text she didnt cheat on him or kill his family and i very much doubt she's the devil in disguise! We are talking about 1 text and date with effectively a stranger. Jeez Im sure most of us are talking to multiple people, dont we say "multidate dont put all your eggs in one basket" etc etc. She could have been seeing someone before she met u, met u and liked u but felt she had to see things through with the first one as she doesnt know anything about u and wouldnt meet u whilst doing that (maybe shows she wouldnt cheat?!) and thats come to an end (maybe she dumped him for you!) and she would like to pursue things with you.. Sit and wonder about it if u like but I think what do u have to lose by going on one date with her x
DArtagnan2 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I think it's all about who you are and how you want to portray yourself. You can play games, like maybe she is, or you can just be someone who responds with a "hey, how are you? long time no hear." and take it from there. I am kind of with Chocolat, you don't know if she even got the text. Many times, I dont get text messages, (which lands me in trouble as well), but technology isn't perfect, nor is life. **** happens. make good choices, be true to you in the end.
Author jay1983 Posted May 13, 2014 Author Posted May 13, 2014 I would reply with "Who is this?" then if she says who she is, then I'll be like "Oh the one who flake and never txt me back. So why are you calling me now?" After she gives her reasons or excuses, then stop replying, just ignore and enjoy her waiting for a response from you. I texted back "who is this" she text "her name" then I didn't reply lol 1
Valen Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I texted back "who is this" she text "her name" then I didn't reply lol Nice!
Joaquin Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 If I wanted to have sex with her I'd have just played it all hey..... how are you, wanna meet up.... No expectations but might have got a ride out of her.
Author jay1983 Posted May 13, 2014 Author Posted May 13, 2014 Come on guys honestly? U don't know what happened to her in the last month she might has good reasons to act that way? U will never know if u give the situation another go and at the of the day she didn't leave u on an aisle she just didn't respond to a text message to someone who is still a stranger . U like her? Reply to her and u will probably find out why she flaked Good luck Wishful thinking, when I first started experiencing flakes, I use to think like that because I couldn't understand why she'd lose interest for no reason all the sudden. If she didn't want to meet a stranger, why would she be online? Especially after talking to this person for a week, knowing you have mutual friends, where their from, what field they work in, who they live with ect.
Author jay1983 Posted May 13, 2014 Author Posted May 13, 2014 If I wanted to have sex with her I'd have just played it all hey..... how are you, wanna meet up.... No expectations but might have got a ride out of her. Let's say I went about it like that, she might have flaked again and beat me lol
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