friday1234 Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 Since January my boyfriend has been under a lot of chronic stress from his job and a house he is building. He lost all sexual desire, not just for me, in general. He wanted nothing to do with it. Because of the loss of his sex drive he in turn lost feelings for me because that was missing. He started going to a therapist last week to try and help him sort things out but after Thursdays session he decided that it wasn't fair to drag me along during this time and broke up with me. He said he can't stand to see how much he is hurting me because of his issue. He told me that he loves me very much, I am the most wonderful/beautiful person he's ever met and doesn't want to be with anyone else. It was the worst feeling hearing that. He told me he is going to continue to see the therapist and he hopes down the road we can re-connect. I am a wreck. I have so many mixed emotions. His house is done being built at the end of the month and his project at work is done in July and i was hoping we could stick it out until then. I know I have to respect his choice and respect he's doing what's best for him right now. He is lost and confused and taking me along for the ride isn't fair. I am proud he is putting himself first for once and doing what is best for him and I am glad I got to help him as much as I could these past couple months. I guess I am just lost in if I should hold onto hope that he will find himself again and conquer his issues? It makes me so sad that a wonderful relationship ended because of a force neither of us could control. Was so much damage done in that area these past five months that the feelings may never come back? I don't know anyone who's been through this so I have no idea what to think or where to go from here.
Elle1975 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 It's true that we all react to stress in different ways. I will give my opionion though. In his eyes you should be a safe heaven, by breaking up with you, he says that you're not. I personally look at his reasons as a bundle of bs. Now let's say it's true, I'd be a bit septikal. Does that mean he's going to run for the hills every time it gets stressful? Read the no contact thread in this forum. And indeed, if it really is stress, NC is best anyway.
Natsume21 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Don't most stressed people go to their significant others for comfort? Not break up with them cause of stress. Chances are you're being bull****ted. Regardless of reason, he broke up with you. Give him what he wants: space away from you.
David87 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 He decided to be selfish and you should do the same take this time apart to improve yourself and who knows maybe he will come back. For now respect his wish and give him space....I know how much it hurts.....
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