ExposedBrick Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 I traded a few messages with a woman from an OLD. On her profile, 4/7 pictures are selfies. One of her messages brought out a possible point of persoanlity conflict but nothing too odd. I gave her my number and she very quickly replies to my texts. She said her schedule is pretty open this week. For some reason she seems a bit off, although I haven't actually spoke with her over the phone or in person. Do you think she seems desparate or weird? I hate to base too much on a non-face to face interaction. Usually, I find people to be very different than I ever imagined in person. Is she maybe just showing legit interest?
ExpatInItaly Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 I traded a few messages with a woman from an OLD. On her profile, 4/7 pictures are selfies. One of her messages brought out a possible point of persoanlity conflict but nothing too odd. I gave her my number and she very quickly replies to my texts. She said her schedule is pretty open this week. For some reason she seems a bit off, although I haven't actually spoke with her over the phone or in person. Do you think she seems desparate or weird? I hate to base too much on a non-face to face interaction. Usually, I find people to be very different than I ever imagined in person. Is she maybe just showing legit interest? Well, don't tell us what it is or anything! If you could give more context, we could give better feedback. As it is, nothing strikes me as weird. Your post is a little vague. 1
DArtagnan2 Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 I traded a few messages with a woman from an OLD. On her profile, 4/7 pictures are selfies. One of her messages brought out a possible point of persoanlity conflict but nothing too odd. I gave her my number and she very quickly replies to my texts. She said her schedule is pretty open this week. For some reason she seems a bit off, although I haven't actually spoke with her over the phone or in person. Do you think she seems desparate or weird? I hate to base too much on a non-face to face interaction. Usually, I find people to be very different than I ever imagined in person. Is she maybe just showing legit interest? I am not on a dating website, but I would suspect that those who are on the website are looking to meet someone and go out on a date. yes, some use the websites for just hooking up, but are you really asking if someone is weird because you gave them your number, they are interacting with you and want to meet for a date? isn't that what one would suspect would happen? 1
Omei Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I think you're being weird thinking she's weird without giving us any information. 3
Frank2thepoint Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I gave her my number and she very quickly replies to my texts...Do you think she seems desparate or weird? Such blasphemy! A person replying to messages, what has the world come to? You know what's really weird. That you probably have a stop watch and you time her responses to your messages. Is she maybe just showing legit interest? The real question is, are you insecure and feel intimidated? 1
Tressugar Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Listen to your gut. It's trying to tell you something.
BlueIris Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Now I know why I didn't do well in OLD. I responded and was available to go out. facepalm. OP, if you find that weird, you're not a match. 2
Atticus9292012 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 If something seems off to you it probably is.... Every time I have ignored my gut I regretted it.
BlueIris Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Interesting point, DTH. Kind of side issue, but… I consider selfies better than photos taken in every social setting and event. Stopping what you’re doing to document… being at a concert, bar, marathon, skiing… makes so sense to me. I never think, “Oh, I should photograph this!” I’ve dated a few guys who were snapping pictures of darn near everything instead of dancing or skiing or talking with everybody.
DArtagnan2 Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 (edited) You know what's really weird. That you probably have a stop watch and you time her responses to your messages. I had to laugh because the last girl I tried to date would time how long it took me to respond to her text messages. She told me the avg time once after she showed and told me several times of her frustration with me taking 3-4 minutes to respond to her while at work or working around the house. the text game is one I don't know all the rules to but has surely caused misunderstandings and hurt because its too easy to put your own spin or perceptions on whats going on or being said. it does a relationship more harm then good. Edited May 13, 2014 by DArtagnan2
SpringBaby Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I traded a few messages with a woman from an OLD. On her profile, 4/7 pictures are selfies. One of her messages brought out a possible point of persoanlity conflict but nothing too odd. I gave her my number and she very quickly replies to my texts. She said her schedule is pretty open this week. For some reason she seems a bit off, although I haven't actually spoke with her over the phone or in person. Do you think she seems desparate or weird? I hate to base too much on a non-face to face interaction. Usually, I find people to be very different than I ever imagined in person. Is she maybe just showing legit interest? All my OLD pic are selfies because my camera is broken, my camera on my cellphone sucks and all I have is my laptop webcam to take pics. I always forget to try to take pics at events but when I do, they don't come out right because (see above reason). When my friends take pics it's annoying to try to get them to remember to send them to me. There...nuff said on the selfie? (hate the word selfie btw) haha
TigerLilly78 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 I think its more something the girl said in the messaging that the OP did not disclose for what ever reason that has him feeing uneasy. To me I would have addressed it before I went any further with rl contact if it was unsettling enough to drive to me a advice forum. But meh "would have could have" now onto another apparent issue I see here. OP she's clearly interested and apparently a assertive women when it comes to dating. If she made the 1st move that's not desperate that's a women who knows what she wants she goes for it. If that is to forward for you then simply tell her you don't think you two will be a good match. Because if that gets your "feelers all tweaking" then she will prob really blow your mind when she carries such behavior's on afterwards. Cause independent assertive women have a habit of doing that luckily for you there are no shortage of damsels in distress who like playing the "dating game" good luck on finding yours..
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