Hawkeye2424 Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 Hey everyone. I was just completely blindsided by my boyfriend of 2 years ending our relationship. We have been together almost 2 years and had a great relationship. We met and I knew he was The One. He always felt the same I thought. We were at a wedding sat night and after he told me this wasn't working anymore. I thought he'd change his mind but the next day he stuck by his decision. I started packing since I lived with and he stopped me suddenly. He asked me to stay and things seemed almost normal the rest of the day. Then that night he switched and told me he didn't even want to try anymore. I gave him a letter I had written and he went to read it. When he came back he wouldn't sleep near me and this morning told me we would talk about it tonight. I haven't gotten my normal morning texts so I'm assuming the worst. Is there any hope for me? I don't want to lose him. He's never acted like this before. We rarely fight and he's always so great to me. I don't know where this came from or what to do. Any help?
PhillyConnection23 Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 I can't say if there is hope or not but I would leave him alone. I realize how difficult that is for you to understand but any pressure you put on him will only drive him away further. Act like a mature adult and give him the space he is asking for. My GF did something similar to me and I gave her the space she asked for...its made the whole process a lot easier on me. You have shown him that you want it to work out, he knows that but has made this decision on his own.
Author Hawkeye2424 Posted May 12, 2014 Author Posted May 12, 2014 I will most definitely give him space. I'm a nervous wreck anticipating what he will say tonight. Did you and you GF get back together?
PhillyConnection23 Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 She broke up with me at the end of March and we've only had minimal contact since then. Yesterday was the first time in 30 days that we communicated. Its not exactly looking promising. However, the significant factor with my situation is that we are in different cities at the moment. If there is any chance of us getting back together it will have to wait until we close the geographic distance. Which isn't happening until December.
Zahara Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 I'm sorry Hawkeye. I was with a past ex at a wedding when he went downhill soon after the event. I guess the weight of commitment hit him like a pile of bricks at the wedding or maybe the realization that he didn't see himself going down that route with me. I can't say if he'll change his mind but all you can do is wait till you have that conversation with him. Prepare yourself and know that whatever happens, you'll get through it.
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