lola59 Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 I'll try to keep this short. I just need some perspectives on my situation. I met this guy a year ago. He's 27, I'm 24. We fell hard for each other. However, we never "dated" because of circumstances beyond our control (we didn't have cars). We did still manage to see each other. We also talked on the phone a lot. It was frustrating for the both of us because we couldn't see each other all the time. For three months we stopped speaking to each other for no reason other than we didn't call each other. Well, I finally got a car. Everytime I spoke with him he'd tell me he misses me, etc. We never talked about what we were though. He made his feelings pretty clear to me, but never said he wanted "to be" with me. He even talked about getting a place together. We ended up having sex once, recently, actually. He called me the very next day...but then he didn't call for two weeks. I didn't answer the phone when he finally called. He just left a message mentioning nothing, no apologies or anything. I'm not going to call him back either because he's just not that into me, right? He just used me, right? I'm just so confused about my situation...
newby Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 i'm not surprised you are confused! i dont know if you should not call him, i mean its been a year he did call next day how did you react when he called next day? in your heart what do you really feel he feels?
Author lola59 Posted February 9, 2005 Author Posted February 9, 2005 I know!! Thank you!! Finally, someone who sees things how I do! I was surprised when he called the next day, but I was happy. I mean, we talked for almost three hours. That's why I'm so confused as to why it then took him two weeks to call me again!! During those two weeks, I did try contacting him four times, but he never responded or called back. So, when he did finally call...I was a little put off and that's why I didn't answer. You know, it's like what was going on with him for two weeks that he couldn't even take my calls or call me?? And that's what I'm saying!! It's been a year...so, at this point I'm beyond confusion. I don't know if I should completely just blow him off or give him the benefit of the doubt? I mean, if I am the one to call him back, he's gonna have to wait. It's just that he didn't even apologize on the message he left me when he did call...? I mean...what is that...? In my heart...I feel like he's not clear about my feelings for him. But I know he knows now...so...I don't know...I know he has no idea how crazy I've been going for two weeks over why he hasn't called, so he has no clue there. But, otherwise...he probably still feels the same way about me. I just have never known where he wants this to go. I think that's why I'm afraid of actually talking to him now.
sinkerswim Posted February 9, 2005 Posted February 9, 2005 Aww.. that does sound confusing....I would try to contact him to see whats up..it doesnt hurt! I know I probably would... Im just like that. Good luck to you!
Mary3 Posted February 10, 2005 Posted February 10, 2005 He has sex with you and does not call you for 2 weeks ? Classic sign that you are Booty Call. Tier 4 : Meaning you are someone he has sex with when he feels like it and calls you when he feels like it. Is that good enough for you ? You should be Tier 1 : Meaning you talk daily and see eachother frequently. What is this relationship to you ? Friends with benefits ?
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