Onehit Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 Hi everyone I'm very inexperienced when it comes to relationships, been dating a girl over last 6 months (15 dates). I think the signs are quite good, she was willing to meet my friends, has brought me a present for new flat and talks about me to her other friends. I've grown to really like her and see potential for something great. I've haven't ask her about being serious. I was waiting until we had become intimate to do this but this hasn't happened (she's a virgin although hasn't expressed it to me yet) - I think me waiting for sex before expressing my feelings is stupid and unfair on her (in terms of pressure). We've both got holidays coming up so it will be 3 weeks until we meet again but I wanted to tell her that I really like her, have no interest in anyone else (in case she gets worried about me being away) and thought we had good potential. Is expressing these kinds of feelings a smart thing to do, I'm worried if they are not reciprocated how it leaves things and have read that guys shouldn't bring up feelings. Thanks,
acrosstheuniverse Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 That's hanging out a little over twice a month... why do you see one another so little? It's seriously hard to build a relationship when you're seeing each other one a fortnight, right? Rather than bring up how you feel about her, I'd try and ramp up the intensity, see her more often, call her during the times you're not together to see how she's doing, start actually acting a little like a boyfriend and see if she responds in kind.
Author Onehit Posted May 12, 2014 Author Posted May 12, 2014 That's hanging out a little over twice a month... why do you see one another so little? It's seriously hard to build a relationship when you're seeing each other one a fortnight, right? Rather than bring up how you feel about her, I'd try and ramp up the intensity, see her more often, call her during the times you're not together to see how she's doing, start actually acting a little like a boyfriend and see if she responds in kind. Yeah we do see it each other now like once a week which has been the case last two months or so. Ah oh, yeah we text everyday and she calls say once a week. I've tried to ramp it up (meet friends) and she's responded well (ask me to meet hers), do you think I'm better off not saying anything?
BikerAccnt Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 I think you need to pick up pace. If I was only seeing someone once a week or so, and had been going out with them for six months, I'd think it wasn't anything serious and wasn't likely to go anywhere. Might I ask how old are the two of you?
melell Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 Yeah we do see it each other now like once a week which has been the case last two months or so. Ah oh, yeah we text everyday and she calls say once a week. I've tried to ramp it up (meet friends) and she's responded well (ask me to meet hers), do you think I'm better off not saying anything? Nothing at all wrong with telling her you really like her, you don't want to be with other people, and would be open to exclusivity ..
bryceisbryce Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 I would go for it. Constant contact and relationship has escalated over time. She is mirroring you which is always a good sign (asking you to meet her friends after you asked her to meet yours). Seems like she is just as interested in you as you are in her from the information provided.
Potz4prez Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 So six months in and absolutely no intimacy? Sounds like you've got yourself a friend.
Author Onehit Posted May 12, 2014 Author Posted May 12, 2014 I think you need to pick up pace. If I was only seeing someone once a week or so, and had been going out with them for six months, I'd think it wasn't anything serious and wasn't likely to go anywhere. Might I ask how old are the two of you? Sure 25. Ah ok, yeah it's both hard with our jobs to meet more then once a week (both work close to 14 hour days during the week) but sure my worry is she might think this if i don't express my feelings
Author Onehit Posted May 12, 2014 Author Posted May 12, 2014 So six months in and absolutely no intimacy? Sounds like you've got yourself a friend. Well we kiss and get a bit touchy but nothing beyond that. I haven't brought up her virginity in conversation yet but she's had previous boyfriends and is still a virgin so there must be a high barrier there
bryceisbryce Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 So six months in and absolutely no intimacy? Sounds like you've got yourself a friend. that's fine within the context of this specific relationship. she's a virgin. there's a good chance that she prefers that things were taken slowly and would feel "rushed" if he brought up sex before exclusivity.
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