Chatmonkey Posted May 12, 2014 Posted May 12, 2014 (edited) I moved this post here from the platonic friends forum as i felt it was more appropriate... So me and my gf broke up probs about 7 months ago by now. I've never really had many female friends, mostly guys (it didn't help that my parents sent me to an all boys school my whole life!) and I am also a bit of an introvert. Not to say I can't present myself well in social situations, I can. I am a 6 foot, 173 pounds, fit/muscular and without trying to sound stuck up consider myself to be fairly good looking, but have never been good at 'playing the game' as one of my friends so kindly put it... haha One of the things i liked about being in a relationship is that i didnt have to chase women like i used to and now i can't stand being in that situation again. but hey that's life eh. Anyway, I'm an aussie and I'm in the US and all the ladies love the accent, however I still don't have any lady friends. I mean i've had two hookups since being here in 3 months and they both happened on the same night. I often find myself at home each night with nothing to do and for once i'd just like to have some friends that weren't guys.. and it's not like they are going out and getting with the ladies all the time either so they can't really help me. The answer to this will probably be keep going out and trying to talk to people, but does anyone have any tips from experience in a similar situation that worked for them in terms of getting out and meeting new people? PS: i am 21 years old Edited May 12, 2014 by Chatmonkey
R3d Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 I have learned a lot from Jad T Jones and Stephan Erdman on YouTube. You should check out their channels. They have a lot of great advice on this "game" you're talking about. They are very authentic and great people in general and they speak from experience. Growing up, Jad T Jones was very shy, insecure, and was very unsuccessful with women, until he learned from the tons of mistakes he made (he talks about this in one of his video), and now is exceptionally successful with women. If you go to his site (by clicking on one of the links in one his videos), he also has a free eBook which is a good read (he talks about some stuff in there that he doesn't on any of his videos). It also gets you subscribed to his Newsletter where he occasionally gives other tips he hasn't mentioned in any of his videos. Stephan Erdman is a "shy guy" and I found he had some very interesting and insightful advice on somethings that Jad didn't cover. They both follow the same principle, "Leave the woman better than you found her." There was one video where Stephan talked about approaching women not with the mindset of, "I am going to approach her," but, "I am going to engage her/flirt with her/better her day/have a good time with her." Of course, simply watching doesn't help. You have to actually put those tips into practice (and I'll tell you, it isn't easy) and that's what I am currently working on.
R3d Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 And by the way, being introverted isn't really a detriment. Even being reasonably shy isn't really a detriment. You have the advantage of being more mysterious - that once she gets to know you, she will know a person that no one else knows as well as her.
endlessabyss Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Go out, talk to people, and don't expect anything out of it. Stop putting pressure on yourself, and don't worry about "game". It's childish, and a waste of time.
Keenly Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 Lay on the accent heavily, and just ramble. It doesn't matter what you say, the ladies are going to dig it.
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