Loving him hurts 50% of the time. 3rd day of NC. I;m in PAIN

[lifestyle1]

he took his stuff on saturday (but left some behind) he did not spend the night fri or sat and I havenet seen or talked to him since sat. I said I needed a week to think things through and then I would get in touch. He said he would be by to pick up his stuff Mon or Tiues (bit hasn't) He is leaving it all up to me to make the decisions. Does he stay or does he go.

 

his complaint-

I dont wanna be here. Yes I moved with my 3 kids 30 mi away to his side of town. It is an adjustment still. It is a 1 1/2 hr to 2 hr commute to work (used to be 20-3- min)

but i have his family here for support with my kids if they need a ride or to be picked up.

He says Im not happy about having to move and my behavior shows.

 

he complains i am depressed (like the not yet x-wife)

well yea, because he is critical, negative, judgemnetal, not complimentary. if i say i love you and he's not in the mood to say it back, he says "OK"

he doesnt tell me when he is happy or i do something that pleases him, just what I dont do well - which is cook, clean or housekeep.

 

well it seems to me that the wife DID DO those things well, and looked at where he ended up - with ME. he wasn't happy with her, and he's not happy with me although he wont admit it. I think it is projection of his unhappiness onto me.

 

he doesnt hold himself responsible, show empathy, he is a blamer and score-keeper.

 

so whay am i sad and hurting? loving him hurts 50% of the time.

[emotionsmessmeup]

my story was the same...

well..now we are on a breka/broke off (god alone knows) with my 5 year old bf.

 

I personally feel he may be comparing me someone he is talking to who is livelier?

I dont know...

i dont know anything anymore...

I am just tired of thinking...and I dont wanna think anymore.