alphamale Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 I see some people posting here on LS that relationships should be painless and comfortable and free of hurt. Personally I think the closest and most intense relationships are full of pain and hurt. Think of the relationship between a parent and a child, there is usually a lot of love and pain intertwined together. What i think is that intense love and intense pain go together and cannot exist without each other. You cannot get the great highs without the deep lows. What do you think??
tattoomytoe Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 i think you are right. i tell white lies all the time to avoid conflict....only to have most of it come back and bite my butt cause i lied anyways. it is a viscious circle.
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale What do you think?? I agree with you. Hurt and anger (and by extension, pain) in certain measures are unavoidable in healthy relationships. If they aren't expressed, then be sure they are being buried and will eventually spill out in some form or other.
tiki Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 I agree. And some things are worth fighting for.
ThumbingMyWay Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 I agree and disagree to a point. YEs love comes with pain. Mostly becuase love is so strong that when someone abuses it, it hurts bad. But with the journey I am on for self discovery and the strive to make a marriage relationship based on turth. I believe that you can make your relastionship pain feel. It will be very hard to do. But if both parties become truely co-commited to each other...meaning, you choose to meet each others needs, to encourge each other to be there own person....and not hold them back from their inner self. They eash one feels the love inside themselves and chooses to love and not hurt eachother. You do this my putting aside your pride for "self" and focus on being commited to "relationship" by setting bounderies to your behavoir, with jont agreement that each of you are still indidivuals, yet commited as a couple. Easy to say, but hard to do....thats why you make a choice and learn to commit to the concept.
Moose Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 There is no way to know what, "Free of pain", is until you've experienced Pain to begin with. Just like, "Good", would never be realized if "Evil", didn't exsist.
Sukotto Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 Definately not free of pain, relationships dont work like that. There are always bad and good things present. If its all good then someone has blinkers on and isn't paying attention to whats happening. You have to take the good with the bad, plenty of bad times in my past relationship but they make a relationship stronger if you can get through them.
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