thekeyis Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Hello, my recent relationship just ended two weeks ago. We were together for six months. I was really happy and surprised it ended so suddenly. My partner was separated and a mother of two children. Their marriage broke up two years prior to me meeting her. The marriage broke up because her husband was treating her badly, he bullied her in their marriage. She told me that she had problems with feeling guilty about the break up of the marriage and some times found she would feel guilt about bringing children into an un happy marriage. Our relationship started quite quickly, and I thought it was going well. I don’t want this to be too long so I will move to the break up. We had arranged to meet up as we normally did, before I left to go see her I got a text message explaining that she felt she couldn’t take the next natural step in a relationship. I went to see her to talk, she said that she has been emotionally up and down recently and that she couldn’t take the next step and that it was not my fault. She said she thought she had turned the corner on the problems with feeling guilt in relation to her separation and what had gone in the past. She explained that she felt I would be missing out on things such as having children and being married because those are things she couldn’t see her self wanting to do again. She said she felt guilty about this and that she might need to back to seeing a councillor. I asked if this is something that we could work through together and she said no. She wanted some space and that it was nothing to do with me that it was her. She said she didn’t know how she felt and that she might have been trying to fill a void with our relationship. I told her that I was happy with her and that’s all that mattered the kids marriage thing was not hugely important to me. Her response was how can you say that. Its because I love her and love being with her. I am hoping she will change her mind and want to work things out. At the moment we haven't talked, I wanted to contact her to make sure she is ok. Last time I seen her she defiantly was not her self. Does space mean no contact? I know this is long thanks for reading.
Author thekeyis Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 I wanted to edit my post but couldn't find the edit button, I was surprised when I got the text message as we had just spend a few days away a little more than a week previous and I had seen no indication of any thing being wrong. Has any one else had a similar experience, any advice would be good too
Strength in Healing Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I would wager strongly brother she is either getting back with her ex (about 75% chance) or found someone new. But I would wager she got back with her ex. It makes sense. The guilt was too much for her to overcome, and a lot of people are frankly idiots and get back with abusers, or stay with them in the first place. My ex broke up with me and is now being physically abused for the second time in her life. You can do better. Try to find someone without children if at all possible, it oftentimes comes with great baggage. I know this from dating my ex who had a son, for 4 years.
Author thekeyis Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 Thanks for replying I do hope she has not gone back to her ex, he didn't treat her right at all
Mr.Pine Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I do hope she has not gone back to her ex, he didn't treat her right at all It's none of your business and not your problem who she went back to or who she is now with. She told you it was over. Man up and move on. Begging and wishing for her return is not going to help anyone. You've lost her...but you have not yet lost your dignity. End any and all contact.
Author thekeyis Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 You might well be right Mr pine, she said she needed some space. That it would be space apart. Sounds like its the same as saying its over.
TylerDurdenn Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 You might well be right Mr pine, she said she needed some space. That it would be space apart. Sounds like its the same as saying its over. Yes it's over, it's done. She said she needed space to soften the blow for you.
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