RideZiLightning Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 (edited) Her and I had an unhealthy relationship. I was never a very good boyfriend and we were split up when she found out she was pregnant. We got back together and have been since until about 3 weeks We had our ups and downs, mostly from me being a womanizer and an all around jerk Fast forward to about 8 months ago, I cheated, decided it was time to change and become a better person. I was hurting and lying to everyone around me. I have truly changed. I'm a loving father, 100% committed to the relationship, totally in love and have done everything I could to provide a safe and loving home She left for vacation with family to Hawaii a month ago, where the family bad mouthed me pretty badly and tearing open old wounds, setting up for her to fall for her brother's best friend Came home. Dumped me. Within a week was sending him half nudes and talking dirty. HE LIVES IN ANOTHER STATE I've been taking care of her the past couple days because she injured her back badly, and we were getting close. I was running all over the place and doing everything I could to help. We made out. Then, after I leave she is right back to saying dirty stuff to him. She would rather have a text relationship with a guy, than have me around. I would imagine if anything, she'd just respect me enough that she would wait or tell me that it was wrong for us to kiss. Sounds like I'm spinning my wheels trying to win her back. How can she choose that, over being with someone who loves her unconditionally and is the father of her child? She says she wants to be young (22), look slutty and get hit on. This is not like her at all. I get that it's a culmination of years of hurt, I've just never seen this side of her before. Just, what do I do? Where do I go? I work alone and am losing my mind. Edited May 10, 2014 by RideZiLightning
SpiritualAlchemy Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Let her go do what she needs to do. You don't have to watch that particular train wreck, though. Sort out the practicalities of moving apart, and then either ask her to leave, or you leave. But then again, things are a little complicated. When you cheated on her, did she support you, were you still in the family home? Not that it matters that much because if she's doing it to extract revenge , then she'll end up hurting herself more than anyone else, in that case, you guys haven't addressed past problems, she hasn't truly forgiven you, and your RS needs work. Two words: Relationship Counselling. But if she's going through some kinda quarter-life crisis, then move her on, or you start packing your bags.
SpiritualAlchemy Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Oh, you don't live together? Then it's easier, implement NC except for business.
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